The American Dream is a Fu*king Lie
The American Dream as I know it is that the person with the most money & expensive possessions wins. Why else do we have 3+ car garages that are filled with stuff and our cars parked in the driveway because there is no room? In addition stores like Costco so we can have tons of everything in mass quantity.
Once again I call bullshit on the fucking American Dream.
I lived the consumer driven American Dream. Was raised in a working class family where we had a nice life, but tons of struggles financially. My mom was an alcohol and drug addict. By the time I was 30 I had earned my 1st million dollars and at 35 was worth several million wearing 10+ carets of diamonds with a diamond studded Presidential Gold Rolex. I had live in help, my kid in the finest school in the state, only designer clothes while traveling at least monthly & only first class 4+ star hotels. Rags to riches baby and living the dream right?
I was miserable and my body self destructing at every turn as my financial worth & possessions grew.
Once you have money and possessions the world becomes a much different place and I don't mean easier. Tons of folks simply worry about not having money and most struggle to have genuine relationships with others.
Money changes quite honestly everything and not having to worry is not one of the things.
It is funny how for me personally money changed my thinking. Made me less genuine and much more materialistic. It got to the point where our household monthly financial burn was over $25,000. If we wanted it we bought it. If we thought it we did it. Literally for most of my adult life I was living the dream.
The larger my ability to be a consumer grew the sicker my body got.
I thought achieving the American Dream would be the ticket to happiness. Instead it was the ticket to paranoia, superficial relationships and having way too much stuff. I was buried under possessions I hardly used. Shit, I had a craft room which only at Christmas time did I ever step foot in this room. Yet it was outfitted with everything you neededd to make any type of craft any day of the week and yet I used it with my daughter for the Christmas holiday only.
What the fuck.
Many American families have more cars than drivers in a household. I was one of them. We had a 4 wheel drive, sports car, family car and date night car. We were not alone in our neighborhood everyone had the same. Every house needs more cars than drivers in 2018 it seems. I see this all over America as I tour so it must be true.
What the fuck.
When I grew up we had 2 cars with 5 drivers and one was a company car that only my Daddy could drive. So literally we had one car for 4 drivers and somehow it worked just fine.
What happens with the consumer driven American Dream is that it only benefits the companies whose stuff we buy. It does nothing to help us be happy, healthy and secure and in fact it does the complete opposite.
You see when you have tons of stuff it keeps you in the cycle of having to work hard always to pay for this stuff.
I remember when I was running big tech companies I would encourage staff to buy expensive cars with their bonus checks because I knew if they accumulated debt they would continue to work hard to pay for their expensive possessions. This was taught to me by the CEO and President of a company I worked for and encouraged by the board of directors at our yearly planning meetings. They would tell me to keep encouraging the sales staff to spend on big ticket items so they work hard to hit their bonuses each year. Bonuses they now need to live their expensive lives filled with possessions.
Not going to lie I often feel sad about this part of my life and my actions.
The real truth is that this is what America is built upon - 100% consumerism. Simply look at credit card company growth and their marketing tactics. Somehow these companies have us believing that using a credit card is the way to "free" airline tickets and we all buy into this fucking lie which is the greatest marketing scam there is. Put money on a credit card to get points for a FREE airline ticket. There is nothing FREE about these tickets and yet we ALL buy into this fucked up marketing scam saying "I got my ticket free with miles."
Once again I call bullshit.
Today I live in a van with minimal possessions at the American standard of poverty. I am also potentially the most healed from Multiple Sclerosis using ONLY diet and lifestyle in the world. I am living an American Dream. The one that no one talks about. It is actually a life dreams are made of.
A life lead by purpose, fueled by community & nourished by Mother Nature.
Today I live my life with hardly any stress. I am a minimalist who has more than enough. I see nature as a place I need to be daily. I move my body freely and without pain by offering it daily meditation, mindfulness, conscious movement and have applied the art of bio-hacking to my foods and most of my life. I serve others and have true friends all over the world. None of this involves consumer driven anything. Zero. Nada.
This was not possible when I was living a consumer possession driven life because that life keeps score. When you live a life of purpose there is no score keeping because you are driven by ideal's and not stuff.
The person with the most stuff actually does not win. Sad to be the party pooper.
Winning is living your dream and if your dream happens to net you financial freedom it is what you do with this freedom that defines you. Do you buy more shit or do you use it to drive an outcome that fuels goodness and not a 3 car garage filled with shit from Costco so you have to park in the driveway.
Possessions do not deliver joy.
Possessions do not deliver health.
Possessions do not deliver purpose.
Possessions do not deliver true friends.
Possessions do not deliver best life living.
For those suffering from anything, physical or mental issues please know that the consumer driven American Dream stands in the way of your healing. It does nothing to help you tap your BAM. I know because I lived it.
Defining YOU and YOUR best self does and this has nothing to do with consumerism.
I wake up with joy in my heart and excitement for every day. Do you?
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