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Food is Not the Key to my Miracle Status

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Food is Not the Key to my Miracle Status

I am sure that many of you know me as a Wahls Warrior. In addition many believe The Wahls Protocol is why I am a walking miracle.

Yes The Wahls Protocol is a huge part, but it is not the reason I am a walking miracle.

As I travel around the USA as part of the award winning "Taking it to the Streets Tour" I am often reminded that most people's entry into self care as healthcare are starting with food.

Food was the last piece to my healing puzzle.

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Food is not what I credit with the reason for my miracle status. Food was the final piece for me. My journey toward being a miracle really started when I was diagnosed in 1987. At that time I made the conscious decision to step outside the standard of care by using cannabis for the treatment of Multiple Sclerosis (MS) in place of narcotics. This eventually grew to incorporating essential oils into my wellness plan and it continued to grow.

Cannabis was the 1st step toward my miracle status followed by essential oils & massage.

My life with MS always had a huge movement component which consisted of hard core work outs and interval training until I became disabled in 2001. By 2001 I found myself unable to do anything physical due to severe fatigue making movement a great hardship.

I spite of this I pushed myself & took MS specific swim classes at the local YMCA. I did this 3 days a week for 2 years until I was able to literally roll onto a yoga mat. At this time I had no ability to elevate my arms above my waist & balance was not the best look yet onto the yoga mat I went.

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Yoga from day one started to heal my body and continues to this day.

Yoga is my hero and has offered the most bang for my buck as a healing modality. Not only is it a great workout, but it also has a spiritual element. Yoga gives me a '2fer' each day is how I see it. Yoga is a part of my daily life & without it I would not be able to move freely. The end.

I have been a devote yogi since 2001 & will be until the day I die.

Movement was the next key element into my miracle status.

My life was so desperate by 2011 I had nothing, but fear driving the ship. Sleepless nights the norm. Wall walking most days unable to be certain I would not fall. Counting my steps to maximize ability to care for myself. Self medicating using booze a constant & financial ruin a daily reality. 

I was completely alone, going broke & my body was failing a little more everyday. Scared doesn't begin to describe what I felt. Suicide a constant thought.

By the grace of life I was able to attend Burning Man. Burning Man is an artist, man against nature, no consumerism or judgement event in the dessert of Nevada offering every attendee the chance to become the person they always wanted to be if even for a day.

At Burning Man I realized my current life was toxic & in order to heal I had to wake up.

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About day 4 at Burning Man while praying at the temple I had a brick hit forehead moment realizing that my life was on autopilot and if I wanted to heal I had to wake up & fast. This was a huge epiphany & began what I consider the core foundation of my healing.

My miracle status is a direct result of my work to get my mind right which began on the playa at Burning Man.

I believe the key to becoming a miracle is to live a conscious life filled with self love, gratitude and joy. Waking myself up & owning my life choices 100% are the reason I am a walking miracle. The Wahls Protocol is the way I eat not why I am PaleoBOSS Lady.

  • I know who I am.
  • I like who I am.
  • I believe in the person I am.
  • I wake up with joy in my heart everyday.
  • I have gratitude for life.
  • Mylife is blessed.
  • I am grateful.

This is why I am the miracle known as PaleoBOSS Lady.

I am madly in love with me & the life that I life.

With certainty & purpose I rise and rest daily knowing my life is entirely motivated by purpose & joy. I am awake, alive & in love.

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Chutzpah verses Fear

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Chutzpah verses Fear

There was a time when fear ruled my life. Every decision I made a fear driven reality. Living with Multiple Sclerosis (MS) fear became my life force.

Having MS meant for years that I could not count on my body even for a minute. No two seconds of living ever the same never knowing which part of my body would function and/or when. Life was very scary with MS winning almost every hand I was dealt for a long ass time.

Circa 2010 and I am studying to get my BA in Psychology at Antioch University in Los Angeles. I fell in love with Narrative Therapy & the teacher who specialized in this post modern form of psychotherapy Charlie Lang. Narrative Therapy considers people are the expert in their own lives and uses language to recreate new narratives. Narrative therapy also considers problems we face separate from the person and that we all have the skills necessary to create change.

The start of each class Charlie asked for a volunteer to stage a 'mock therapy session' in front of the class. I literally jumped out of my seat begging to be picked. Little did everyone know I was about to give a real therapy session in front of everyone. My life filled with fear and I was no longer living.

At this time in life things were spinning out of control. MS was calling the shots which translated into a life faced with the choices of homelessness, institutionalization or I was contemplating suicide. I had little to no use of my hands, healthcare costs were so high my life savings almost depleted & I lived in constant pain. Trouble swallowing was increasing & I knew my days of using my body freely were numbered. At this point I had no hope & no tools to beat MS & fear was deciding every second of my life response to MS.

The day of class I found myself overcome with fear. Crippled by its power I was a complete mess & barely hanging on. Somehow I knew that Charlie could sense my urgency picking me to be in front of the class for the 'mock therapy' session.

Charlie starting by asking me what I would like to talk about during the session and I said fear. He asked what fear was to me so he could clearly understand what I meant by fear. I explained that fear was the leader in my life making all the decisions. I also shared how crippling it was making choices harder and harder to come by.

Next Charlie asked how long I lived with fear calling the shots and I explained since MS entered my body it was in charge because of the nature of its devastation.

The next question Charlie asked changed my life: 'Before fear what was calling the shots in your life V?'

I thought for what felt like so much time to answer this question. I remember sitting in front of everyone thinking back to before fear ruled my every move. Quite honestly I had forgotten what life was like before fear yet I knew it was not the ruler of my life journey before MS. It took me so long to remind myself of life before fear.

Suddenly it hit me! I had Chutzpah! Chutzpah ruled my life before fear!

Remembering this I began to feel better because quite honestly I had forgotten I had courage. Fear was so powerful I literally forgot who I was & the tools I had.

For the remainder of the class session Charlie had both us play the roles of Fear talking to Chutzpah and I was quickly reminded that there was more to me than fear. MS had so clouded my person that I forgot the tools I had inside me. This was a huge eye opening moment for me which began the journey to BAM I am living today.

By 2011 my fear was becoming less and less with my person making choices that were based on best life living and no longer motivated by fear alone. Before the year ended I saw the life changing TEDx by my hero, friend and mentor, Dr. Terry Wahls and was now ready to begin my journey to miracle status.

The work of the brand of PaleoBOSS Lady centers around changing our life narrative from autopilot to living. Often during this work many of us are reintroduced to the assets of love, survival and joy that live inside of us which are forgotten when we live a life of routine following both cultural and societal norms.

With 1 in 5 being disabled in the USA I am sure fear lives in many of us. My brands work focuses on reminding ourselves that we are not defined by what life throws our way, but how we respond. Somehow I forgot the power of me in the face of MS and all that is V. Today I gladly show MS who is BOSS which could only have happened once I kicked fear out of the building.

Got fear? Dig deep inside to remind yourself what defined you before fear entered the building so you too can tap your BAM.

 

 

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"Free Your Mind & the Rest Will Follow"

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"Free Your Mind & the Rest Will Follow"

So often during my tour & with my work as PaleoBOSS Lady I hear from the community that they are eating healthy, but still have not achieved miracle status. Food is only one piece of the puzzle. Actually the key to successfully healing for this gal began with getting my mind right.

The psyche is the key to a successful miracle outcome.

Getting your mind right is where the healing starts & ends. For so many of us we refer to eating whole foods as a diet. This alone presents a problem for healing. Giving up processed foods is not a diet it is a conscious choice to honor your body & your person. I personally consider this step #1 in tapping your miracle.

As long as we believe eating healthy is a diet failure will be part of the equation.

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When I sit down to eat I look at my plate with joy that I now get to thank my amazing body for all it afforded me that day. I find myself excited & grateful to nourish myself with each bite.

Living with Multiple Sclerosis for 30 years I can tell you that food truly is poison or medicine.

I can also share that the autopilot of life will be the quickest way to end up with disease & suffering. 1-5 are disabled in America alone with the number projected to be 1-3 in the next 4 years.

Simple facts like gluten is directly connected to inflammation which is connected to autoimmune disease cannot be denied or ignored yet many of us still to this day think going gluten free is a fad or only for those with Celiac. Wrong.

Waking up to what we are eating & putting in our body should be the societal norm.

However in the consumer driven world we live this is far from the case. Most food choices are based on taste & often price alone for many of us. Seldom if ever are we reading ingredient lists. Often we simply eat whatever we want with zero consciousness regarding what we are eating.

Eating foods without knowing what ingredients are in them is simply mind blowing & the result of marketing success by the companies that make the products.

With over 85% of grocery stores selling processed foods clearly 'mad men' are winning.

So how do you free your mind? How do you begin to wake up?

Step 1 is to commit to opening your eyes & mind to daily life. Literally asking & answering the why of what you do all day every day especially regarding the foods you eat.

A simple step is to realize what you are eating each day. Walk over to your pantry or kitchen cabinets & begin to simply read ingredient . This can be a very powerful & eye opening experience.

I suggest if you do not know EXACTLY what an ingredient is do not eat it.

Here is an example of an ingredient list for Swiss Miss Hot Cocoa:

Sugar, corn syrup, modified whey, cocoa (processed with alkali), hydrogenated coconut oil, nonfat milk,, calcium carbonate, less than 2% of: salt, dipotassium phosphate, mono-and diglycerides, carrageenan, acesulfame potassium, sucralose, artificial flavor. contains: milk.

Every ingredient listed I do not know what they are even sugar & corn syrup. Refined sugar is a modified form of sugar meaning it is not natural. Corn syrup can be filled with GMO's which is not clearly noted. Literally this drink is toxic waste dump we often give our kids without any hesitation.

Eating consciously is not a diet it is self respect married to self love.

In order to free your mind you need to remove the autopilot of life to stop living a life based on consumer driven societal norms.

Freeing your mind happens when you wake up. Literally it is that simple.

Yet somehow we feel like it is hard & not sustainable. I believe in you & hope this inspires you to begin to live a life of BAM because you know each action you take should be about being the best version of YOU.

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The Role of Your Past

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The Role of Your Past

I am not going to lie I live in the narrative world & after years upon years of therapy have finally been able to understand the role the past plays in my life today.

Nothing.

Now don't get your panties in a bunch & hear me out. Sure the past can often be stamped into our memory so strong we cannot seem to forget. My past was nothing short of being filled with gut wrenching hardship & truly remarkable joy. Yet neither of those define who I am.

As someone who did a TEDx on the power of culture to influence life you might think otherwise. Just as my culture has had a role in the person I am it does not define me.

I define me.

In a narrative world respect for the past is understood yet it strives to re-tell your own story. I sat many hours in a therapist office hearing how the past was responsible for my current story. I beg to differ believing that the I get to author my own story by constructing new meanings to emotions, thoughts and outcomes from the past. 

The past does not define me.

As someone living in community invited into people's homes & having the opportunity to be vulnerable with each other I hear quite often how the past is the reason for this or that. "I am this way because when I was raised..." are common responses to why things are the way they are or why growth is not happening.

As I shared in my TEDx "Cultural Collision" I think many of us choose an autopilot existence allowing for the past to become a scapegoat for all things important in tapping our miracle life.

Once I began to get conscious with the who, what & why of my life story the past became a story that I got to rewrite & not one that defined me. Multiple Sclerosis (MS) used to define me until I was able to realize the story is not written by MS it is written by me. If MS was defining me it was because that is what I allowed for.

My mother was an addict which for many years did define my life. Even in therapy all the hours spent were often talking about the role having an addicted mom played in my life outcome. I felt like I spent years in therapy talking about mom & her why which produced nothing to help me tap my best life. Instead it provided me with 'reasons' for my struggles offering zero tools to rewrite the story.

I say hogwash to that.

The narrative of my life included an addicted mom this is true however the story I tell is mine regardless of how my mothers life was defined. Her actions are her life.

My actions only define & are responsible for my life.

I personally believe that once we can start to realize we are the only creators of our story can we tap our BAM. As long as we let the actions, idea's and outcome of others share in our narrative we are going to be unable to raise the roof on our own lives.

Autopilot living which includes many cultural norms make it impossible to have a narrative that is a path to your miracle life. We each need to recognize the past as a script that we get to re-write so we can define our journey and not as the reason for our why.

Your story today is written only by you not your past.

Not going to lie this concept has been so freeing for me similar to ditching the scale & no longer counting calories all of which were cultural norms I adhered to for far to long.

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Balance in Imbalance

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Balance in Imbalance

Times today feel somewhat out of balance. Especially for those troubled countries at war in any definition. America as a world leader is in transition & balance not the status quo. Each day we are being faced with moral issues involving our rights & our government.

Somehow we became a divided country overnight. Somehow we became out of balance as a community. Somehow my balanced life is grounded on imbalance.

This division in America shook my core. It put me in a place where I was scared my wellness plan was not going to be enough to continue to support kicking freaking Multiple Sclerosis (MS) to the curb. It is times like this I am thankful for my "Bag of Tricks" filled with resources to help maintain balance in my life when the outside world is running on empty.

Daily I run to my "Bag of Tricks" to see what resources I have to support this imbalance in my American life. Here are some of my favorite tools to keep balance in an imbalanced world:

  • Mantra's: Repeating statements like "I cannot control the actions of others I can control how I live my life." I love to say things out loud & believe this helps to manifest our dreams. It also helps to 'fake it till you make it."
  • Meditation Apps: Thankfully I use the app Insight Timer. I love their guided meditation option which I have been using for each meditation post election. I still have not been able to tap the calm of silent meditation so the app's various guided meditations are essential to my wellness during the current imbalance. Having a mind that is talking all the time & hard to silence during these times of unrest in the world make this app a life saver for me.
  • Essential oils: The use of oils have been a proven winner since the late 80's in my life & continue to have a strong hold in my "Bag of Tricks" offering help no matter what life throws my way. The beauty of diffusing oils is they can be customized to support the needs I have each day and time of day.  Oils help with energy, calm, clearing the toxic air, breath work and so much more I find a solid supportive use for essential oils everyday. If you spend any time with me you will know I am always diffusing or burning something. The air I breath is a conscious & huge part of my wellness journey.
  • Dancing: When they say dance like no body is watching that translates to mean dance like you are in the club on the bar to me. Literally I am a dancing fool and this part of my day has became essential to both my mental & physical wellness. There are days when the club is too much & I like to simply feel the music with lights out and candles lit while moving without thought. Sometimes simply moving through the emotion of the song & feeling the moment is a wonderful alternative. Dancing should offer the space to be free from thought beyond self expression of the music & how your body feels it. Dance. Dance. Dance.
  • Music:  Simply listening to music I find is the heart beat to the soul.  I love picking my intended feeling for the day & have it reflect in my musical choices. I am someone who gets 'hooked on a feeling' often playing the same collection of songs over & over again. Seems I stay with certain thoughts for long periods of time. I try to let the tempo define my mood & this is how I pick the music I play. Even if I am not dancing having music playing for me is a huge wellness tool. Not going to lie my childhood songs are my favorites from the 70's. I prefer to have my memories at the beach in Brigantine, New Jersey.
  • Narrative Change: Something new & challenging needed to enter my life now that the imbalance in America is a daily reality. I had to focus more on good than bad outcomes. Defining my role in this transition was key. Once I was able to realize what self help tools were going to support this journey I was able to begin changing the narrative back to balance in my life regardless of what was happening around me. A new narrative has been a key to wellness which sometimes means simply creating the space for change.
  • Bliss Boards: Sure vision boards help to manifest your vision, but doing a bliss board reminds you of the things in life that fuel your BAM. Consider having a Bliss Board party to fuel your soul & bring community into your journey. Community. Party. BAM.

Sure I voted, marched & sent postcards, but that simply is not enough for me. I also decided every action of my life will reflect who I am & the community I serve. This was solidified in my person. The next step was the most important.

I needed more to keep my wellness plan in check when things outside of my immediate life were spinning out of control.

The loss of friends & family alone have been huge since the election in America. In all of my 53+ years I have never once witnessed such a divided country except during Vietnam & I was too young to understand. This time in my life I knew that I needed to make changes in me to 'off set' the changes I could not control. The current state of affairs in America presented changes to my personal life balance & stood to shake up my wellness plan without me realizing the effect would be so great or really preparing.

Having a "Bag of Tricks" once again proven to be a key resource in my miracle life.

Times are changing globally with our food & water systems being threatened daily & our governments changing constantly. There is not much we can do day to day beyond excellent self care, conscious living & creating change in ourselves. Once we are able to master our own purpose than we can have an impact on the global outcome. However for most of us the 1st step it going to be to look in our 'Bag of Tricks' to identify the tools you have vs. what you need then to get busy making sure your person is on point & ready to lead by example.

Times of imbalance in our global world call for balance in our private life to be essential so we can continue to thrive no matter what life hands us.

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My Battle With Anxiety

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My Battle With Anxiety

Never in my life did I think anxiety would be a crippling force for me. I always identified with my birth sign, Taurus the bull. For most of my life I saw myself as someone who has been overcoming obstacles since the day I was born because I was a fearless bull. 

Until I wasn't.

My mom was a prescription drug addict & my dad suffered from un-diagnosed PTSD (post traumatic stress disorder) as a WWII war hero. The combination presented a very colorful & often hard childhood. Yet in spite of this I was an honor student & overall great kid. Never once did I get in trouble like most kids & even with my parents issues I was able to maintain a strong relationship with both filled with love.

I really believed I had it all together regardless of my childhood. I could not have been more wrong.

At the age of 23, I was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis & this is when anxiety started to become a noticeable issue.

Google's definition of anxiety is: "a nervous disorder characterized by a state of excessive uneasiness and apprehension, typically with compulsive behavior or panic attacks."

I really had no idea I suffered from anxiety until it became so great I swore I was having a heart attack. When anxiety got so bad my heart would feel like it was going to beat out of my chest, I could not catch my breath & my body temperature would elevate leaving me to see this as symptoms of a physical issue not mental.

This was not my truth. My issues were 100% psychological.

Looking back & as early as I can remember I suffered from anxiety. Anxiety comes in many forms with phobia being one & this gal has the same phobias since childhood: I am afraid of heights & closed spaces.

I also lived on 'edge' most of my childhood into adult life which is another sign of anxiety. Almost fight or flight since birth is how I would describe it. When your mom is a drug addict you never know what each day will present & on top of that having a violent father meant mom's actions would trigger his frequent outbursts of violence.

I also suffer from OCD & have since early childhood. I maintain being a neat freak who cannot have things out of place. When I was a kid my part of the bedroom was organized every morning, my drawers neat & orderly plus I had many personal 'routines' that need to be adhered to or I simply lose my mind. All signs of anxiety yet I had no idea. In fact I was praised by my parents & grandparents for these 'honorable' traits as a kid. Like most kids my sisters were messy & always forgetting stuff yet my parents would often tell me how proud they were of my anxiety driven behaviors which often left me far removed from normal kid activities.

Last but not least I lived with crippling irritable bowel issues from childhood until almost the age of 30 & never once did a doctor share the trigger might be psychological.

You see my friends anxiety has been my partner for most of my life since childhood yet I had no idea.

When life got crazy & Multiple Sclerosis became my life partner anxiety became a much harder thing to ignore. Anxiety now meant a life driven by fear resulting in a feeling that I was going to die from a heart attack.

I was so overwhelmed it became impossible to function & Xanax became the answer. 

Doctors instructed me on days that I felt 'overwhelmed' to take Xanax so I did. This resulted in several days a week for long periods of time living on Xanas yet my habits, behaviors & thoughts did not change. Xanax simply made it almost impossible for me to 'get worked up', but did nothing to manage my fears.

I did not question that Xanax was a nothing more than masking symptoms & really was not aware of the fact that Xanax was not the right answer to resolve anxiety.

Today beyond being an extremely neat person I no longer have anxiety in my life or take any drugs for the treatment of anxiety.

What changed? How did this happen?

  • I woke the fuck up is what happened.
  • I took ownership of my damn life is what happened.
  • I know who I am is what happened.
  • MS no longer defines me is what happened.

By living a conscious life I have been able to make choices outside of the cultural & societal norms that involve changing the way I treat my person & my body. Using food as medicine is a great example of this. Being a Wahls Warrior following The Wahls Protocol created the space for my brain fog to lift enabling me to wake up.

A daily yoga & meditation practice have also fueled this journey with years of psychotherapy & community support added to my conversations around consciousness.

Anxiety in any form is crippling to many who experience it. I see more & more struggling with this in their lives. I would ask you to 1st look at mindful ways to get moving & consciousness regarding food to be the 1st few steps you take. It is hard to make changes & control negative behaviors when our body is not given the proper foods & love it needs to be the best version of itself.

Community support is always a great way to achieve any goals especially when stress triggers are present as with most anxiety outcomes.

Rome was not built in a day & consciousness takes time to change this narrative. Stay present, stay with it and believe you too will overcome anxiety in your life. Simply treating it with medication is not the only answer. Owning your life & your actions sets the stage to offer a life free of anxiety with many tools in your 'Bag of Tricks" to kick it to the curb for good.

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Handling the Holiday's Happy

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Handling the Holiday's Happy

I remember when I worked as a respiratory therapist at a teaching hospital the holidays were always when we worked to get so many patients well enough to go home. It seemed for every one that we sent home 2 were admitted.

I also remember my mom always struggling to "keep it all together" during the holiday season and often having hospital stays sometime in the month of December.

It seems many of us struggle to keep our psyche on point during the spirit of the season. Stress comes from so many different places making it often hard to juggle. Money, family, being "Martha Steward" and so much more are elevated expectations during what is supposed to be a season of joy.

How to manage it all without stress is a huge concern for a lot of us. Stress is the #1 killer and trigger for all of us especially those living with disease. Sadly for many it is what manifests disease especially during the holiday season. Managing the holiday spirit is important for both our mental and physical well being. This blog is all about ways to handle the holidays so you can jingle all the way.

The 1st thing is we once again need to wake the fuck up and get conscious about what the holiday spirit really is. From Thanksgiving to Christmas life is not the Hallmark consumer driven idea of holiday spirit. Gifts under the tree & cookie exchanges are not what the holidays are about. These are the consumer driven holidays. The autopilot holiday cheer.

The core of the holiday season is to have joy in life, good will toward men and gratitude for family/friends. Nothing that costs a damn penny & all are intention based actions.

Sorry folks it is not packages under the tree. The Grinch, A Charlie Brown Christmas & the movie It's a Wonderful Life are great reminders of the true spirit of the season. Somehow we all watch them year after year then walk away writing our wish list for Santa. WTF?!?

I am not blind to the cultural norms of the holiday season as outlined above. I am also not so silly that I would say it is hard not to get sucked into the rat race of holiday bliss, but nothing worth anything in life is easy. Instead I ask all of you to ask & answer some real questions that result in action.

Leading by example I would like to share how over the years especially during the years my kid lived with me how we were able to navigate the true meaning of good will toward men.

Cooking: It's a family affair. Whoever said one person cooks while everyone else eats is an ass. Cooking is the foundation of wellness & all about what fuels our body. Cooking consciously especially during the holiday season offers the perfect time to up the volume as a collective. Many of us bake holiday treats or huge party meals & this offers the best platform ever to put some holiday music on, pour a cup of bone broth (chocolate by ancient nutrition is like cocoa), grab the entire household & share in the magic of food. As a collective, a unit & a family of cooks. No one ever said they hated cooking during the holidays together yet somehow this tradition most often falls on the shoulders of one.

Shopping: It is not the how of shopping that is unconscious so often (this would actually be another blog). It is the who of shopping that needs a conscious check-in. Introducing the idea of shopping for someone who needs a hand should be at the TOP of all of our lists. When we sit on Santa's lap we should tell him 1st how we want to help others in need. Not a list of 10+ things we don't need. I simply do not find age an excuse here. Sorry not sorry.

When my kid was living at home each year we made our gifts for the family/friends we held dear while also adopting boys who were released from detention centers into the care of a ministry. They literally had only what was on their backs when they came out. The young men would give us a list of needs from underware to PJ's, books, shoes & more. As a family we would shop, wrap & on Christmas eve deliver boxes upon boxes of gifts to be put under the tree. When Christmas morning came each boy had a delivery from Santa and his elves. Today I am proud to say my daughter continues this tradition & instead of buying gifts to exchange with her boyfriend. They opt to continue the true meaning of the season based on years of a tradition that changes the giver and receives life.

Decorating & more: What happen to stringing popcorn & cranberries? What happen to going door to door caroling? Roasting chestnuts & so much more? Once again when my kid was young these were the things we loved the most about the season. Simple things that involved making spirits bright as a collective. Our tree & holiday decorating was an example of history, community & familial love. Not Martha Stewart has arrived in our home.

One year we got married in our home at the time on December 14th and the wedding florist decorated the banister. Every year from that Christmas forward we would spend time recreating as a family. It would often take days to complete this holiday tradition that was a symbol of when our family started. This more than the tree was the joy of the season for us because as a collective we were reminded of the special day we became one. The decorations were about union & togetherness having nothing to do with Martha.

Reflection: Since childhood I have used the month of December to reflect on the current year while contemplating the coming year. New Years resolutions are a thing for me & growth toward a better me a conscious effort. To simply have one year end and another begin without consciousness to me would symbolize a life not lived.

We all need to pause. We all need to aspire. We all need to believe in our ability to reach for our dreams.

Vision boarding has been my favorite tool & there are many others that can help inspire you to tap your BAM. The consumer driven nature of the holidays should not overshadow that a year is ending and another beginning. Never should a year simply come & go without ownership & reflection with measurable goals.

When the holidays are filled with the true spirit of the season stress is gone.

There is no stress in being a collective cook. There is no stress in caroling for a few neighbors. There is no stress in thinking about how to be the best you & what your future holds. There is only stress when we attach ideals of expectations which once again are cultural norms having nothing to do with the spirit of the season.

Isn't it time you got your real jingle on & stopped the holiday spirit that is filled with expectations, worry & for many of us debt?

I believe in you. Personally I wish you & yours the holiday season we all deserve: one filled with love, light and togetherness.

The Christmas Song: The Grinch
"Fahoo Fores Dahoo Dores
Welcome Christmas Come this way
Fahoo Fores Dahoo Dores
Welcome Christmas, Christmas day
Welcome, welcome fahoo ramus
Welcome, welcome dahoo damus
Christmas day is in our grasp,
So long as we have hands to clasp"
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Living a Passion Driven Life

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Living a Passion Driven Life

I cannot believe that in 10 days the "Taking it to the Streets" Tour sponsored by Nutiva and Natural Habitats officially begins. Seems like yesterday I decided to make this all happen & now it is here & so very real.

Not going to lie until I am actually out there figuring it out I live in disbelief this is all really happening.  Sounds ridiculous I know, but the thought that this girl will be driving all over the USA seems unbelievable & yet is the basis of every action I take each day.

Yes I am still getting used to my miracle status.

As I put together spreadsheet after spreadsheet mapping out this journey I am overwhelmed with gratitude to serve my brothers and sisters. Little did I know when I decided to live a 100% passion driven life that I would be where I am today.

Almost every day someone asks me, "Is your body going to be able to do this V?"

Every time I stop & think silently for a brief second, "You crazy asshole this is never going to work." until I remember my history since living a passion driven life has proven otherwise.

Actually my passion driven life defies all cultural norms & continues to deliver miraculous outcomes so why the fuck can't I do this is the immediate next statement that comes right behind the negative talk.

What is a "Passion Driven Life" really many ask me?

In our global consumer driven world it is almost impossible not to fall into the autopilot of life living day after day with little thought or focus on our individual passion. Most are driven by bills, responsibility & cultural norms which have nothing to do with a passion driven life & everything to do with routine.

Trust me I was so very guilty of this for most of my life. Driven by stuff aka greed and defined by possessions with higher purpose being guided by these shallow ideal's. No wonder my body blew up with Multiple Sclerosis taking control.

Today I have zero. Merely 30 personal possessions, a leased car, dog, laptop & 20 aprons to use for cooking classes.

My life driven by moral obligation.

Reason does not come into play beyond safety & 100% pure self-love. This my friends is a passion driven life.

  • "Sure "V" sounds great, but I got shit to pay!"
  • "Tell my partner that V!"
  • "4 kids, aging parents and a mortgage say dream on."

I have heard it all. I lived each one out for years.

Until I had my entire body blow the fuck up punching me in the face day after day doing whatever it wanted while I was just taking each blow trying to act like a champ, but I am a BOSS.
  • A BOSS owns their life.
  • A BOSS is conscious & does not follow cultural norms.
  • A BOSS knows who they are.

I didn't. Somewhere along the way this BOSS lost herself. Forgetting who she was.

We all have had dreams. We all have believed if even for a moment we could do or be something that dreams are made of. I ask you to search inside yourself to find that place again. We all got that shit we just forgot about it or maybe put it on pause for a stay.

When you are ready to turn the passion switch "on" you need to tap that place again.

Search for it & once you get there ask and answer the questions:

  • If I got it all right in 1 year what would my life look like?
  • &
  • start mapping that shit out with the passion you just tapped.

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The Power of Doing Nothing

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The Power of Doing Nothing

One of my most common pieces of advice when you are struggling is to do nothing.

I don't mean when an action is required ignore it. I mean stop pushing your life. Stop "doing" to make life happen in the direction of your dreams and just chill the "F" out.

Doing nothing is the most powerful weapon toward miracle status we have. It is also the hardest thing to do.

Allowing your mind to stop doing can be a huge challenge. I found it to be almost impossible for years. Yes folks I said years. In typical V fashion I did not stop until I got to QUIET and boy am I glad I did!

The 1st time I learned my mind was quiet happened on the yoga mat at the Brandywine YMCA in Delaware. There I was in yoga & for the 1st time in years I elevated my hands bilaterally above my waist! This amazing achievement took 6 months of religiously going to class 3 days a week for this miracle to happen. A miracle that coupled with breathing provided what my body needed to function.

I have been working hard to recreate this outcome since & now believe I have mastered the art of quieting my mind. Which equals almost 2 decades of conscious practice to get to this place. 

If this concept is new to you or if you have just stepped out of practice here is a peek into my "Bag of Tricks" to help you shut the "F" up so the real shit can go down. Damn it.

Energy: Create the desired energy needed to relax your mind. For each of us this is different so there are no rules how this energy should look or feel. My space has a yoga mat, something burning, a room honoring sunrise, music playing and a dog present. This currently is my energy space where my brain stops conscious thinking & moves to the magic space.

Intention: When you want for something the outcome is equal to the input. Wanting seldom produces miracles & often only feels unsettling. By setting an intention believing the journey will provide you create the space for miracles to manifest. Without true intention nothing ever really manifests. Sure things happen without action and those situations the focus should be on how we respond and have less to do with how they happened.

Affirm: Affirm that you know the answer is out there waiting for you. By affirming your person to the understanding that without a doubt the knowledge is within our reach the space for it to be heard is accessible.

Every time I am on the yoga mat I have a pad & pen by my side with a lit candle to be able to write down the many idea's that often arrive during my time on the mat. I affirm before each practice my believe that the space is open for divine energy to show me the way. Often the outcome appears in a stream of consciousness when I am in my most meditative quiet state. Seldom does it appear when I am actively thinking because I have not affirmed to myself the space is within me therefore I cannot tap the resource needed for the energy to be received. I personally need the mat to help create the space of affirmation.

Dedication: Saying you will not think does not deliver this blogs message. Dedicating time each day to quieting the mind becomes one of the most necessary steps you can take to making this powerful tool work. It can be defined however you want and many are surprised at how that can happen with the only rule being a solo tour.

Gardening is a great way to dedicate time to quieting the mind. This type of practice requires you to focus on gardening often quieting the mind of daily stress creating the space for desired outcomes. Cooking can often be the same for many as well as working out. However a key point is the dedicated time is a solo time not to be shared with others.

Believe: The underlying theme in all things is to believe they will happen & you are willing to accept any outcome that comes you way knowing it is the right one. With this mindset you can move mountains. If your person can truly believe the journey of life is delivered exactly how it is supposed to be you create the space for how you want it to be. Believe it or not and if you think about all that is written in the blog and its focus on energy you will begin to see how powerful this step is above all others.

The beauty of this is that is costs nothing, is inside all of us & can make our lives richer, fuller & a mirror picture of our desires and yet the power comes from the art of doing nothing. Now get busy doing nothing & tap your miracle life.

I believe in you.

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The Time I Out Grew My Doctor

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The Time I Out Grew My Doctor

We all know I am a walking miracle who kicks secondary progressive MS to the curb all day everyday by living a conscious life. This process has been a long, hard journey that requires daily continued effort to remain a miracle life.

I am not cured of MS.

Managing the symptoms associated with MS involves commitment & straight up balls that most of us cannot begin to comprehend. This gal literally & almost without fail is consistent, diligent & a true freak about always working hard to live my best life from sun up to sun down with conscious effort, extreme focus & willingness to question the status quo.

Extreme self love sprinkled with being brave lie at the core of my choices.

Once I began my Paleo journey my neurologist did not listen to a word I said. She literally continued typing her notes as I was speaking about my last hope. All of this happening at a time in my life of complete desperation where my future clearly was facing homelessness or institutionalization. Money running out & MS getting worse by the day I was completely desperate, scared & living in constant pain.

My daughter was with me & when we left the docs office & immediately said, "Mom, I do not like her she did not even listen to you."

3 months later I saw the same neurologist to discuss my issues with injection sites as a result of 19 long years of injecting these physician pushed disease modifying drugs which I religiously took & continued to get worse and worse.

These drugs cost on average $2500/month which for me equated to: $570,000 over 19 years.

By this visit with only 3 short months of living a conscious Paleo life I already lost 25+ pounds, my skin looked amazing & many of my symptoms I had lived with for years gone. Completely gone.

There was no way to look at me & not notice a HUGE change for the better in my person both mentally & physically.

Said neurologist noted my appearance asking what I was doing? Politely I reminded her of my Paleo journey which she stated,  "I have never heard of this helping treat MS."  I then referred her for the 2nd time to Dr. Terry Wahls & her TedX where once again she did not even write it down. 

The result of injecting myself with these powerful drugs over 19 years created bruising on my buttocks & stomach making them purple always. In order to fulfill this every other day obligation I would drink heavily to tolerate injecting myself into a raw bruise until I woke up realizing this was not working.

Healthcare as I knew broke my person down to the point there was almost nothing left of me, but a drug filled, pain ridden body that was failing at every turn. My life was MS & nothing else at this point.

This appointment I told my doctor I was no longer taking the injections to which she vehemently objected. After 30 minutes of trying everything she could to prevent me from stopping her last stitch effort was to point out, "You are a very rare case & one of the longest in the world we know of using interferon for so long. We have no idea what would happen to your body once you stop. You could easily become bedridden & advance your disease state." All said while she is ignoring how I look & the results I had already visibly been showing.

This doctor was so concerned that she made me sign a paper stating it was ill advised & she nor the hospital would be liable for my choices & that they clearly did not recommend this.

To date I have NEVER gone back to a neurologist for the treatment of MS.

To make matters even worse the drug company Biogen called to see if the doctor advised me to go off the drug? I said no she ill advised me & asked their representative if I could share my story as to why? They responded they only handled finding out if the doctor advised me or not so therefore had no use for my reasons.

I hung up the phone & called the FDA who was more than happy to hear my story of bruising, sickness & more.

In complete fear & scared to death I stopped my injections. Literally for 6 weeks me & my kid waited for my body to react. I literally waited & waited & waited, but all that was happening was healing. Pure, unadulterated healing.

This was 5 years ago & as of today I am a walking miracle all day every day. No longer take the 24 pills or injections & still do not see any specialist or take any tests for the treatment of MS.

Now 5+ years of my conscious lifestyle & healthcare docs as we know them I have also outgrown.  My family doctor can no longer support the path I am on which I never saw coming.

The fact is traditional healthcare is symptom management alone & based around expensive tests with no focus on root cause. Beyond yearly physicals I do not see a place for traditional doctors in my life.

Today I see a functional medicine doc whose is working with me to understand my body at an even deeper level than before. A doctor whose intake form did not ask about family history as we know it they asked about how I was delivered as a baby, when I first took antibiotics in my life, what were some trauma's during my life & how did I handle them, what did my stools look like & how was I sleeping, managing stress & what my healthcare goals were. 

The 1st appointment was 1.5 hours long with my doctor getting to know me & my body from head to toe by asking questions & engaging with me. No physical exam just a doc who dug deep to get to know me, my body & my history from a view unlike traditional healthcare.

My healthcare goals are to find root causes of the final 2 remaining health issues that plague me & traditional healthcare has never been able to support beyond drugs that cause great side effects & only mask the problems: allergies & hormones. Working with my Functional Med doc we are doing stool tests to saliva to look deeper into my body & really see what is happening so I can make lifestyle changes to support my best life rather than drugs & continued suffering.

Today at the age of 53 I have no pain, manage all symptoms of MS through lifestyle, live at optimal weight moving my body freely & at will taking no drugs, no MRI's or neurological testing or injections.

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How to Touch Yourself

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How to Touch Yourself

By: V Capaldi

Knew this headline would raise an eyebrow or two. Hang on because this is exactly what we are going to be talking about.

How to touch yourself! 

Funny how many have never really touched themselves.

I mean really touched their entire body. Every inch of it from head to toe.

"Touching myself slowly, with feeling, honor and respect are a daily ritual in the life of this miracle & have been essential to my current miracle status."

Living in complete conversation with your body sits at the core of any miracle life. Without mutual respect coupled with extreme self love miracle status is not accessible. The end.

I am always aware of my bodies needs because I ask it daily & assess throughout the day.

When was the last time you...

  • Knew what it felt like on the right side of your body vs your left?
  • Assessed if movements on each limb offer the same result on each side?
  • Became consciously aware of both sides of your body noting if they offer the same feelings?
  • Noticed if your strength is equal on both sides of your body?
  • Noted what happens if you walk on your toes?
  • Became aware of what happens if you walk on your heels?
  • Stood on your toes? If so, do you need to hold on?
  • Touched your toes? Can you touch your toes?
  • Touched your jaw, face or cheek bones? What did you notice?
  • Became aware of what each finger feels like when you touch it? Each toe?
  • Felt your ears & around your head?
  • Rubbed your elbows & knees to see how they feel?
  • Twirled your wrists & ankles in clockwise & counter-clockwise motions noting how they felt?
  • Did a squat?
  • Got up and down from a chair? the floor? What did it feel like? 

Focused movements & consciousness of being are 2 key ingredients to a miracle status. How one brings this into daily routine is the journey we all get to decide.

"Dancing, yoga & self myo-fascial release with the intention setting power of angel cards are my "go-to" daily rituals that support conscious body awareness for this boss."

Dancing allows us to access physical & mental states in an effort to support our individual needs for the day. This fun & easy routine creates a perfect storm for self love & movement without the stigma attached to morning rise & shine exercise.

"If you ask & act while listening your body will speak with very clear messages. Responding is the powerful force that elevates one to true empowerment."

Dancing happily is the goal.

When this outcome is not accessible more down time may be needed with a strong potential need for increased mindfulness & breath work. When smiling at the mere thought of dancing you may want to focus the day's attention on area's of life that involve a more active role of your time. Viewing the day in such a manner shows the power of dance to play an important role as a valuable lifestyle tool.

My popular solo morning raves offer me a vehicle to customize a personal plan for the day to support my goals.

A morning dance session has the ability to rearrange an entire day of you are open to the possibility. Living with disease or not if a morning dance does not make your body & mind smile it might be time to stop, drop & rest.

If for whatever reason my body & mind do not appear to be aligned with the goals of the day without question a "day off" is granted. Last time I checked nothing matters more than a healthy body & mind which means allowing for down time an easy step in the role of a self loving goddess.

How to really touch yourself:

sit, stand, lay down. who cares. have water handy & drink it. now get busy touching yourself

  • Align/comfortable/focused/shoulders down/chin & belly tucked/breath/head to sky/feet to ground/opposing energies/breathing/note/mentally/ spiritually/physically/relax
  • Rotate wrists/feel/sounds/compare/reverse/repeat
  • Ankles/rotate/clockwise/counter/repeat/feel/compare
  • Knee to chest/breathing/note/repeat/both knees
  • Hug yourself/hard/tight/feel/shoulders/down or up
  • Hands above head/reaching sky/feels like
  • Crown of head massage/ to base of skull/push/pinch/rub/note/compare sides
  • Touch ears/pinch lobe/feel sensation
  • Jaw line/pinch/chin to ear/feels like/repeat
  • Head side to side/note/even/uneven/rotation/note/repeat
  • Rotate head/clockwise/counter/feels
  • Shoulder start/squeeze down to fingers/ feeling/both sides
  • Fingers/pinch/3 spots/palm
  • Feet/pinch/3 spots/rest of foot
  • Rotate wrist/feels
  • Legs to ankle/note/feel
  • This entire process takes about 10 minutes done with intention

The longer you engage in touching yourself shorter focused time will be required.

I am uber body aware crediting both yoga & self myo-fasical release as the strongest tools in my "Bag of Tricks" supporting this.

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How to Create a Sacred Space in 3 Easy Steps

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How to Create a Sacred Space in 3 Easy Steps

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By: V Capaldi I must admit that I find myself often getting mad at me when I realize how many times I take things I do for granted. I work so hard to share my life while being conscious and yet I still am not perfect. #damnit

One of the things I have somehow always had even as a young child was the awareness and ability to create and have a sacred space. As a kid I decorated my bedroom each month making it my personal retreat even though I shared the room with my sister. It was very clear when you entered the room where the sacred space was.

My sacred space was were "I" lived whenever I was not outside playing with friends.

My childhood home was dysfunctional to say the least. Filled with addiction, violence and mental disorders gone wild.

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"Your sacred space is where you can find yourself over and over again."

Joseph Campbell

This year for the 1st time I realized how for so many the idea of sacred space is a new concept.  #doubledamnit

As with most of my tips and tricks in the infamous "Bag of Tricks" I recommend a 100% no rules allowed policy when defining a sacred space.  If you read my blogs you will notice a common theme and that is you get to set the rules on how you interpret your life. Who am I to say what constitutes your sacred space?  I can however give you insight into how to get started to begin creating a sacred space:

How to Create a Sacred Space in 3 Easy Steps

 1. Ask the question: As in most new concepts I chose the outcome driven approach.  Looking 1st to my desired outcome and working back.

  • Is it a place?
  • In your mind's eye?
  • How is it accessible?

What was the 1st thing that you thought of when you heard sacred space? Often answering this is a great starting point.

2.  Try it on: Once  you have identified a thought or two concerning your sacred space try that shit on, take it for a test run, whatever it is get going.  I happen to be someone who has moved a lot  counting over 19 times in my 52+ years.  Each time within a month of moving I have progressed to this step.

An example would be: when I moved from living on the beach to near the beach I knew my daily access to "my sacred space" was going to be in trouble.  It took me a few weeks of trying new versions of 'going to the beach' to finally hit a system that supported finding my space.

3.  Visit often: Like a new pair of shoes I often try them out before the 1st day of a good wear I recommend you check your shit out.  I personally wear a new pair of shoes for 'short' outings or around the house for a minute before a full day.  Breaking them in for me always a learned necessary step. Same holds true for a sacred space. You gotta try this shit out and see how it feels.

If you have to search for "you" than it probably is not the best look is my gut. You know a sacred space. 

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For me personally I share my sacred space with the waters edge, my yoga mat and a 'cozy' moment created on-demand using essential oils, candles, angel cards and music.  I know the perfect locations, sequence, oils and so on to allow space for me to find me.

The miracle known as PaleoBOSS Lady believes having a sacred space is essential to all of our own miracle reality.

Where is yours?

Would love to hear...

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Namaste you bastards! #ohitgetswild

 

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How Angels Help My Life

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How Angels Help My Life

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By:  V Capaldi Okay so doubters, haters & shit talkers simmer down now.  I am certainly not little miss spiritual, but I am 100% mindful.

It all started for me back in 1996 when I owned a store called Sanity. It was an award winning version of PaleoBOSS Lady that lived in Delaware over 20 years ago. Everyone thought I was a head shop. I digress. #damnit.

Oracle Cards from Doreen Virtue were one of the longest and best selling products at Sanity. This deck of cards still to this day is a huge tool in my "Bag of Tricks" and leads me in so many ways it is worthy of a blog post.

Yearly Angel Reading:  Do not let the term 'yearly' in any way define a start date. It is a year from whatever day you chose it to be. The fact that I am writing this blog at the beginning of the new year is because I know many use this time like I do to set intentions. I am hoping this may capture some who are in this process.

A 12 month reading for me gives me guidance with intention and purpose. It allows me to apply a directed focus in an often broken record style mindset.  This years reading I am especially excited about and believe the angels have guided my journey so strong in the last few weeks presenting the archangels almost daily. This 12 month reading for me I felt needed to be heard loud and clear knowing all of the archangels have been by my side telling me I got this and it is time to go GF & make shit happen.

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V's 12 Month Oracle Card Reading:

  • January: Harmony
  • February: Children
  • March: Freedom
  • April: Spiritual Growth (attention/resisting/upside down)
  • May: Listening
  • June: Dreams (attention/resisting/upside down)
  • July: Friendship
  • August: Miracles (attention/resisting/upside down)
  • September: Focus (attention/resisting/upside down)
  • October: Forgiveness (attention/resisting/upside down)
  • November: New Love
  • December: Body Care (attention/resisting/upside down)

Daily (or almost) 1 Card Reading:If you have not figured this out I have a touch of OCD mixed with ADHD.  With this comes a hard time focusing on stuff for longer than a second it seems some days.  I have a very chatty mind full of energetic idea's that sometimes result in nothing good.  Sometimes the chatter is filled with things that have no business being in my head like fear, worry and negative thoughts.  Angel readings solve this for me. Literally.

I actually learned this in the 12 step program. My mom was an addict and I went to Al-Anon where they talked about "Let go and let God."  I struggled with this greatly being the chief enabler and care taker of the addict. My sponsor gave me a shoe box with strips of paper and a pencil. He told me to write those types of worries on the paper and put in the box. Once the worry was in the box I gave it to God and no longer was allowed to think of it. Ever. If I got confused all I had to do was open the box to remind myself I had broken my own promise to myself which was unacceptable.

Using the angel cards gives me a focus. Enough so that when negative talk or lack of purpose strikes I remind myself of my card. This is my focus, purpose and intention for the day.  No need to fill my head with the other stuff which was not serving me.  Filling my head with the angels message is healing and helping my journey in more than words. I literally feel like Dumbo with the feather.  Feeling the angels by my side offers comfort and security in my journey without identifying higher power beyond energy.  I like that.

3 Card Reading:Each card representing a past, present and future however not in such a literal sense.  I try and do this weekly as a focus of the week question to my angels. I feel it allows me to reflect, be present and take a quick look into the future.

Each time I do a reading I set a scared space which typically for me means something is burning: essential oils, incense and/or candles. Lights are dim with the energy in the room open to the angels and their message. Takes about 5 minutes to have the stage be set for this experience for me. I have a little section in my dining room cabinet with all of my scared space needs so I am ready in a flash.

Each one of these tools are a big part of my mindfulness work. For many it seems mindfulness is the hardest part. Not sure if you have considered work like this before and hope this blog helps inspire you along your conscious journey. However you get there PLEASE know that mindfulness work is essential to a miracle life.  You cannot get around it, but you certainly get to define it.

Here are a few of my favorite and most read blogs offering additional idea's for mindfulness tools:

http://paleobosslady.com/autumn-aromatherapy/

http://paleobosslady.com/how-to-dig-deep/

http://paleobosslady.com/how-to-meditate-in-5-easy-steps/

http://paleobosslady.com/vision-board-to-reality-in-5-easy-steps/

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Virtual Vision Boarding

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Virtual Vision Boarding

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By: V CapaldiWelcome 2016!  Happy Holidays everyone!  I want to thank all of you for a wonderful 2015 that has been filled with so many amazing outcomes I cannot even begin to collect them all together in my mind without feeling overwhelmed with gratitude!

A few highlights of 2015:

  • The Brand of PBL has grown to reach over 50K daily and 1 million weekly.
  • Chef V has become a sought after 5 Star Cozymeal Chef serving over 100 plates this holiday season!
  • Started signing my name: V, Wahls Team Member
  • Officially began working with both Dr. Terry Wahls and Zach Wahls
  • Was filmed for 2 movies about my miracle life set to release in 2016
  • Launched the Up Your Volume Webinar Series
  • Spoke at The Wahls Symposium in August on motivation and movement
  • Won the Food Babe Video Contest
  • Was sponsored for a trip to Ecuador to learn about organic, sustainable farming
  • Attended PaleoFX with my roommate Dr. Terry Wahls (OMG)
  • Lived for 5 days with Dr. Terry Wahls and family in Iowa in October
  • Co-wrote and launched the Wahls Coaching Program with Dr. Terry Wahls

Needless to say the above alone has me 8 feet tall and that is just a small list of 2015 realized!

Anyone that knows me knows that Vision Boardingis a huge part of my higher purpose journey. This year I have decided to offer a Virtual Vision Boarding Webinar!

Mark your calendars for December 30th at 9am PST!

Sign up & grab whatever supplies you need to join me for a 90 minute webinar mapping out 2016.

Theme of Webinar:"If we got it right, in 1 year, what would my life look like!"

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Included in the Webinar:

Guided Meditation

Intention Setting

Short Talk from PBL

Collective Energy Push

Movement Session

Allow yourself to consider the collective power of such focused energy to help raise the roof on your goals for 2016! Join the community of PBL and lets map our visions for 2016 together!

Here is one of my most read blog posts to help inspire your journey: http://paleobosslady.com/vision-board-to-reality-in-5-easy-steps/

Up your volume in 2016!

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My One Small Step Week 3:  Community matters!!

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My One Small Step Week 3: Community matters!!

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Happy Saturday, friends!! I love starting my weekend with our little chats... It keeps me accountable and helps me keep an eye on the big picture.

In my new adventure into conscious eating & living, I am constantly reminded of how important community truly is. I'm so lucky to be surrounded by really great people like V and the PBL community (that's YOU!) to keep me on track and lift me up!

At home, I have an incredible network of friends in my neighborhood. This little neighborhood is a treasure from another era in many ways. It was built in the early 1900s on the outskirts of the city limits. Our kids play "Kick the Can" & "Capture the Flag", and have been known to drive neighbors crazy by jumping on pogo sticks late into the summer evenings. When the kids were all little, we would bring wading pools out onto the corner under the trees to jump and splash, while parents sat on the stoops or benches and caught up on our lives. We've seen each other through family losses, difficult pregnancies, cancer battles, and separations. We've celebrated birthdays, proms, graduations, & new babies as well!!

The great thing about a vibrant and thriving community is that it requires a cohesion in vision or purpose, and also a strong diversity of opinions, backgrounds and perspectives. Our little neighborhood group is made up of people of different ages and political opinions. Some come from money... some live on a really tight budget. Some are transplants, and some have been here for generations. We all love each other for what we bring to the table, and the joy we find in each other's company! We get into heated debates! We walk off in huffs. We cry in each other's arms. And we laugh hysterically... a LOT!! We also sit in silence sometimes. Just taking it all in.

When I told my neighbors that I was starting my "conscious eating" adventure a few weeks ago... it sparked quite a conversation!! Some people jumped right in with recipes, tips, excited ideas and strong opinions on how I should proceed... Giving up refined sugars isn't enough! Why am I allowing honey & maple syrup?! Why am I still eating grain?! It got passionate!! In the other corner were the neighbors who felt it was a bit extreme... What's wrong with a cookie or s'more every now and then?! Why does everything have to be all or nothing? Isn't there a way to be mindful, and still allow for occasional indulgences?

I love this dialogue, because it helps me to ground myself, and test my convictions. Differing opinions help me to consider things I may have missed. Similar mindsets offer insight into the challenges ahead and ways to make them easier to overcome. I'm loving the way this conversation is unfolding, and the way it is helping me to grow and center myself.

Thank you so much for being part of this conversation and for expanding my community from my little corner of the world, to a larger and more diverse group of souls!

Have a great week!! And let me know some of your small steps toward mindful eating & living. It will help the conversation to grow!

PS: speaking of community... I want to give a shout out to my beautiful friend Clair at Karma Card for the great graphic at the top of this post. Follow her on Instagram.  She's the bees knees!

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One Small Step for me...  One Giant Leap for my Family!

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One Small Step for me... One Giant Leap for my Family!

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  By LL

As I sit here on the eve of my first food challenge of my PBL career... I'm not gonna lie. I'm uncomfortable!

In fact, I keep asking myself why I'm doing this?! Why am I choosing to take a risk, step out of my comfort zone in front of an audience, and drag my family along with me for the ride?

Because it's time! Because I want my family to be healthy ... ALL of us! And I want us to be more conscious about the choices we are making.

V and I have been chatting a bit about what I will take on as my first step towards conscious eating. This one has been tough for me. I was a vegetarian for a while after college. In the past years, I have been deeply impacted by Michael Pollan's: The Omnivore's Dilemma. I've also become a big fan of food writer Mark Bittman and share his concerns not only about the health impacts of our modern diet, but the ecological impacts as well. I have been trying to cut back on the amount of meat in our diet for the past few years and add more vegetarian options to the table. I'm a big grain eater. I love quinoa!! I love oats! I love bulghur & farro. So trying a Paleo lifestyle is going to be a big adjustment on many levels for me. I'm drawn to the focus on sustainability, conscious farming & slaughtering practices, organics... so I know the Paleo consciousness is very in tune with my own. It's just a big leap!!

So how do I pick my first step?

I decided that I should look at everything we eat in a week, and also... what we DON'T eat. What languishes in our refrigerator until it gets tossed or thrown in my neighbor's compost pile? What real-time food decisions are we making on a daily basis? Let's question the status quo a bit in our kitchen...

I was pretty disappointed when I got to the end of the week. Farm stand veggies wilted in the face of another busy evening with everyone running in different directions. Sandwiches purchased on the fly, or take-out for dinner were chosen in multiple instances instead of taking the time to cook something fresh and healthy from our fridge. The biggest problem in MY house right now? Processed foods and pre-prepared meals. The evil twin attached to that... SUGAR!

Holy cow! There are cereals packed with sugar (and these are supposed to be the healthier options!). There are snack bars and pre-blended yogurt smoothies. There is soda in my house!! When did we start drinking soda again?!

Ok... there's a lot to clean up here!

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Step One: dump the packaged crap and start cooking real meals instead of grabbing things on the fly. (Does that count as #onesmallstep?!  It sure feels HUGE to me!)

 

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No more bowls of cereal or yogurt drinks instead of a good breakfast. No more pre-fab dinners or lunches. I'm cooking up some of those veggies and organic, grass fed meats!

I'm not ready to knock the grains yet. That's going to have to come later. But I am ready to do a refined sugar clear out in the pantry! I've enlisted the troops... and they are on board. I think cereal will be my husband's biggest hurdle. For my son... soda & ice cream? Not sure. We'll have to see. For me? All of it?! I'll report back and let you know.

To kick us off, my son & I just listened to Nom Nom Paleo's recent podcast about Paleo desserts. It was a great lead in to our month of clearing out the refined, processed, sugary crack in our pantry.  They make great points about the fact that somehow dessert has found a place at every meal... every day!  Sweets used to be a treat for special occasions or Sunday dinners.  How have we gotten so off course?! My son loved the idea that, after our August purge, we only add dessert or Paleo treats back into our diet on "S days," like they mention in the podcast. (I'm hoping we only add them back on holidays & birthdays... but I'm not ready to let him in on that part yet!)  I've done a ton of reading over the past week on Clean Eating & Paleo, and focused in on the debate over Paleo sweeteners.   I already caught an earful from one of my neighbors on the topic.  I can tell this is going to be an interesting ride!

I'll save that for my next post!! Right now, I have a lot of junk to purge from my cabinet, and a week's worth of meals to plan & prep!

Wish me luck!

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Mourning Consciously. Say What?

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Mourning Consciously. Say What?

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By: PaleoBOSS Lady® March 5th around 12:25am my life became a mourning fest that has not stopped.  Literally tears are flowing down my face as I type this post.  My best friend and longest relationship beside my daughter passed onto angel status.

Raw Runway Bikini Ready Rita became an angel on 3.5.15

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She was my faithful companion, healer and best girl for almost 12 years.  Rita chose our family at the age of 4 weeks old by literally running on top of all of her brothers and sisters and announcing "pick me!" and we did!  December 8, 2003 Rita joined our family.

Fast forward to 2004 less than 5 months after she arrived my familial world collapsed beyond my wildest dreams.  The hardest fall of my life and Rita was by my side & my healer.  She was my rock, inspiration and best friend.

Rita gave me purpose, love, joy and most of all companionship.  

Rita's passing did happen overnight although it so feels like it.  I really knew in December she was showing signs of aging and acting differently. We took a trip east for the holidays and Rita for the 1st time in her life decided she wanted to lay on my chest all the time.  I conveniently attributed it to her age mentally moving on. #damnit

Fast forward New Year's Eve blood appears in her urine.  Big warning sign even though meds cleared things up.  A mom knows when something is really wrong and this mom knew she was not well.  As I began to look over the year it actually started the year before while visiting back east.  This new awareness increased our conscious life together from me as her owner and friend.

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Thankfully on NYE I chose at that moment to assume Rita needed hospice and never left her side almost 100% since December 31st 2014.  Those moments filled with gratitude were a real gift for both of us.

We both knew where we were heading, but somehow I thought we had more time.

A dear friend came over the week after Rita passed and reminded me of the tradition of sitting shiva.  Allowing yourself to mourn and others to take care of you.  I heard her and agreed this was the right thing for me to do just allow for the emotion.  So I sat and sat and sat.  Still sitting.

Here we are 3 weeks later and I am still crying and aware of this loss most of the day.  Slowly with time, the help of friends and focused effort I have once again started cooking, sleeping better and am finally able to physically move. Progress is happening although slow and I am encouraged.

You see my heart has not hurt this much ever. Sure I have been sad and heartbroken many times in my life, but those relationships were all unhealthy for me. In the past my person was broken because the relationships were broken and based on deficits.

I had never mourned the loss of such a trusted companion ever and found myself on new terrain.

In typical PBL fashion I turned to Google for answers. Searching for any blogger, science wisdom on how to mourn consciously.  Nothing. Nada.  Which to this lady means there is a need for one and why I am sharing this blog post in real time. #theusual

Sure I am still mourning living in what I call a real life Heartbreak Hotel.  I am also certain that #onesmallstep has to be enough.  In addition another common theme that holds true for a successful outcome during times of mourning as in almost every aspect of life is community.

Mourning consciously means allowing for the process while including the support of others.

Sitting shiva is not only a time for allowing one to mourn the loss it is also about accepting the help of others consciously.  I am learning in real time how that manifests and finding community in so many ways. From forcing my person to go to a yoga class in the hope of not crying for just that time to taking walks along the beach getting outside and around other life energies.

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I encourage all of you to recognize in time of great loss and heart break it is essential to allow for the process of mourning, find community and engage in self evaluation to successfully navigate what only time can heal.

Time is the real healer.

Oh shit it has been a minute since I posted!  Happy to be back and hope I have stirred you up enough that subscribing to my blog is happening now!

Join the party of questioning the status quo in an effort to manifest your life reality. #ohitgetswild

Basically follow me and lets inspire each other. Why not?  Namaste. 

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3 Steps to Begin Your "Bag of Tricks"

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3 Steps to Begin Your "Bag of Tricks"

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By: PaleoBOSS Lady® Since the new year PaleoBOSS Lady® has had a full inbox of folks asking for help manifesting their life!  This jazzes my soul beyond belief because it represents others actively living a conscious life. Living consciously for me resulted in the miracle known as PaleoBOSS Lady®!

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Manifesting one's life includes developing your own "Bag of Tricks."  A Bag of Tricks should be filled with tools using movement, mindfulness and food to consciously live your best life.

Below are PaleoBOSS Lady's 3 Steps to Begin Your "Bag of Tricks":

1.   Add,  subtract, multiply & divide your life!  Be open to including things that aren't always in your present life. Discounting things that have had a positive impact on our lives happen to be something many of us are guilty of doing. Often we tend to hold onto the things that had a negative impact longer than positive.

Each life experience brings with it knowledge and lessons learned that are an essential element to your Bag of Tricks. Be willing to add,  subtract, multiply &  divide life looking through every life lens.

An example of this relates to meditation.  I bring years of learning in my prior practice to each meditation.  Walking meditation, group meditation, counting and so on are allowed to enter my decision-making process so that I can pick the practice likely to produce my desired outcome.

Sometimes we get so stuck in the new that we forget the value of the old.  It is essential to include useful life information as you experience it and to remind yourself of them throughout your life journey.

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2.   Have a conversation with yourself about what support systems you need to help achieve your desired outcomes. This could change based on what you're doing.  I personally have identified several different communities of support needed to be present in my Bag of Tricks.

Currently I decided to make some serious food and lifestyle related  changes. These changes I believe will present a very large challenge for me based on psychological need based addictions. In order to successfully navigate these lifestyle changes I have decided on a #90DayManifestingMEChallenge that includes limited social interaction.

The thinking behind the timing is based upon the science of what produces a habit. I am working hard to change old habits and produce new lifestyle choices.  I have learned that it is best to allow myself  this level of commitment to assure the desired outcome is achieved.

Other times changes in my life require a support system of community which looks completely the opposite of the above. Each outcome needs to be considered identifying support systems that reflect the end result.

No matter what your outcome is a lot of community support systems should be in your Bag of Tricks.

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3.   Last, but not least is self-love! Without the desire to live a conscious life toward self love nothing can be manifested! Manifesting is synonymous with dreams becoming reality. This does not happen without love of self!

You can tell yourself whatever you want, but the reality is true.  Manifesting life takes a non-narcissistic self-love to produce the energy needed for such a long term miraculous outcome.

Every time I stray and make choices that clearly do not reflect self-love the miracle of me starts to slip away! I've tested and retested this and every time the outcome is the same. #damnit

Manifesting is not the same as success. Please don't confuse the two.

Manifesting is creating the life that you want that supports your ideals & vision for yourself.

If you do not have a lens to see yourself that is loving manifesting life cannot happen.

The End.

Well, well, well you made it this far!  How about giving me the old thumbs up and subscribing to my blog?  #whynot

Literally these social media outlets that I shamelessly share my life on are the community that supports my drive to kick MS to the curb all day every day!

I am sure if you do some learning could happen, inspiration and I will probably offend you by accident and all for FREE!  #ohitgetswild

Thank you & love the life you live my friends! #namaste

 

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How To Meditate in 5 Easy Steps

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How To Meditate in 5 Easy Steps

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By: PaleoBOSS Lady® The first time I made a conscious effort to start meditating was 1996. I just suffered a severe Multiple Sclerosis attack and was desperate to find calm within the storm. I bought tapes, books and magazines and devoured as much information as I can find.

At the time I was living in Delaware and access to holistic intentions like this were often difficult to access community. So off I went to the Golden Door in Escondido, California. During my time at the Golden Door active daily participation in medication classes happened coupled with much internal 'work'.  The beauty of this was each day students were offered various forms of meditation.  By the end of my week stay I had several variations in my "Bag of Tricks!"

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The key to success for me was to continue the practice and identifying how to best accomplish this.  It's funny because only recently has my mindset regarding meditation changed.  A conscious effort to meditate is not a meditation practice.

A practice of meditation comes without effort and is commonplace in your life.

Today, PaleoBOSS Lady® meditates using several variations all based on the day, the moment and the intention. The greatest thing about meditation is learning and accepting the myth of sitting down in a cross-legged position and chanting is bull shit.

Meditation can be done however you define and that is the most empowering message of all!

How to Meditate in 5 Easy Steps:

1. Spend time figuring out how to be most comfortable enabling you to eventually achieve the goal of quieting your mind. Quite honestly this can be any way you want! Sitting, standing, lying, legs up, legs down, cross-legged even walking is acceptable regarding meditation.

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For me personally this position evolves and changes. Living in constant conversation with your body allows for this with ease. You may identify several positions that work for you based on these conversations. The key is to listen for the answer.

2. Find the space that works for manifesting a quiet mind during a practice. Consider the space sacred for at least the time the meditation is happening. Your sacred space can be different and evolving just as you practice is.  However, setting an intention within the space is a critical element that remains regardless.

I often find once I locate the space certain elements within the space are essential to the mindset to have the space feel sacred. Lightening candles, diffusing essential oils,  listening to music or sounds playing in the background  & even being out doors works.  Many times I find myself yearning for the sound of air & the feel of sun, wind or rain on me as the sacred space.

Incorporating elements to enrich the experience should also be part of the conversation when creating your sacred space.  Be comfortable asking yourself what makes your space comforting to you!  No body, but you and for that moment!

3. Download an app with a meditation timer! I love this and it makes it easy because many of them offer wonderful meditative sound effects to start and end your practice. I personally use Insight Timer and love how it shares how many other people worldwide are meditating with you! The power community once again speaks with this little feature in the app!

In lieu of downloading an app, I recommend getting a timer and/or a bell to be used to start and stop your practice. Little gongs and triangles are often used once again personal preference is essential.

4. Start slow without expectation beyond commitment! I recommend starting with a five-minute commitment for at least three days a week. It is recommended that you not be fully awake when engaging in your practice. Typically I've consumed about half a cup coffee before meditating. Define what this means for you and for many the state of mind needed to accomplish a successful practice happens before going to bed. No rules here just breath and quiet your thoughts.  If your mind is busy no pressure.  Just remind it that it is quiet time!

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Gradually and at a sustained pace increase your time. There are no rules beyond honest conversation that continues on a path of self growth that often feels uncomfortable coupled with real commitment to quiet the mind!

This should be a lifestyle change and not a short-term resolution. Therefore there is no race to the finish and often slow and steady is the best way to roll.

5. Change your mindset or fake it till you make it regarding meditation. A conscious life requires balance and with balance comes daily large doses of self-care. To include dedicated time to a meditation practice should never be an issue when you are living a conscious life.

I know you're all thinking sounds great in theory, but there's this thing called life!

I honestly have to tell you that the first step of a conscious life is realizing what's important for you to manifest your life. Some of you may not believe meditation is important or needed. I am not going to argue this point.

The only way to find out is to allow for 30 to 60 days of some form of commitment to a practice and see. Science, personal experience and history have shown that meditation increases quality of life for those practicing. What you have to lose?

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If anything I said offended you than you MUST subscribe to my blog! Kidding.

I hope something engaged you however that manifested.  Offensive is not what I am going for, but I will take it because it means you were engaged.

Consider subscribing to this great blog by this gal who considers herself a walking miracle!  Overcoming secondary progressive MS is not easy and it is the community of YOU that encourages my journey.

Long story short…is just subscribe and lets manifest life together!  Kicking ass the whole time!

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