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What if You Trusted the Universe?


What if You Trusted the Universe?

I keep asking myself what would happen if we lived our passion, had a strong moral lens, knew our actions were making the world a better place and were filled with joy everyday? To me this would certainly be living my best life. I also have to believe there is some karma rewards that would come into play as well. Right?

So why the F don’t we all do it? Lead with our passion and have a purpose driven life?

Because we live in a consumer driven society. Our day to day life focus involves possessions which tie us to autopilot living so we can pay for all the shit we have, want and most often never use. Hey don’t kill the messenger friends we are all guilty.

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The foundation of modern society is built on consumerism.

Even our bodies, our temples we are made to believe are flawed requiring cosmetics, dyes, surgery, fillers and even rat poison injected in us to be an acceptable standard. We all know this is true and yet we stay on this life roller coaster with our most trusted autopilot life. God forbid we wake the f up.

  • What if you started leading with your heart?

  • What if you started created a space for your dreams outside of your mind?

  • What if you focused on your passion with a purpose?

  • What if you gave your passion a voice?

  • What if you lived with purpose?

You would wake up everyday with joy in your heart and certainty in your person. Each day would be filled with a welcome embrace of focus, determination and intention through consciousness of being. Most of your actions would support a respectful, minimal and low footprint life. Sustainable and regenerative thoughts would be in daily life and Mother Nature a best friend. The communities you surround yourself with would offer deep connections, growth opportunities and powerful tools for best life living. Last, but not least you would be certain you are living the reason(s) you were put on this energy space. The reason you are here would be realized every second of the day. Your purpose would be your golden ticket to BAM.

I know because this is my truth.

Somewhere along the line it became apparent to me that If I chose to trust the universe & create the space for the best version of me I just might be playing the game of life with a winning hand. I couldn’t see or realize how the person with the most possessions wins in this game. I actually find possession driven lives sad and shallow. This radical change sits at the core of my being and message.

The universe always provides if we create the space for it.

We are given a choice to either miss the ‘old’ version of ourselves or realize we are a perfect evolution at each phase in life. I used to be so damn depressed over what Multiple Sclerosis (MS) took from my life and wished constantly to get them all back. Once I changed this narrative to one that recognized it was time to move on because the universe had bigger plans for me outside of loss life became a wonderful journey of perfect timing and little to no loss. I no longer look back on my life and wish for anything to replay.

I live in a place where I trust the universe to guide me exactly where I am supposed to be.

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If I didn’t live in this space I never would have been able to tour. I had to believe that serving all mankind offered me a safety net of Karma. I look back now and when I think I was nuts I remember that I had to trust the universe to make the tour happen. I believe without question it would not have worked any other way. This needed to be a core foundation to have the tour be as successful as it was.

These actions of trust are only able to happen once you can close your eyes and stop talking.

When you live your life with only your sensory guiding the universe plays a much different role. A consumer driven role. When you shut it all down and tap that energy space where passion, purpose and your superpower live the universe always, always provides in perfect order and timing.

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I Don't Give a F*ck About What You Eat


I Don't Give a F*ck About What You Eat

After years of growing and working to identify my life purpose I have finally figured out how I can best serve others and myself in this energy space. I am happy to share that the work I do will be more defined and accessible to everyone with a total re-branding and focus on the power of the human spirit to create the life we dream of.

The brand of PaleoBOSS Lady has out grown its name and it is time to change so that it truly reflects my work and my beliefs. Within the next few weeks I am proud to be launching a new website and logo under the name - V Capaldi

This change is happening for several reasons with all being based on the conscious space I live in today. Quite honestly I don’t give a fuck about the way you eat and the name PaleoBOSS Lady confuses this message.

  • I care about the conversations you are having in your mind.

  • I care about what happens when you live life with your eyes closed and your mouth shut.

  • I care about the autopilot of life infused by societal and cultural norms.

  • I care about tapping the energy space outside of ourselves to produce a BAM life.

Food is a part of my BAM life, but not responsible for it. It did help me wake up to many cultural and societal norms.

Touring I had this confirmed time and time again. I gained so much clarity about the power of the human spirit to create miracles in spite of what you eat. What matters is what you think and having a masters in psychology I witnessed what I studied first hand almost every mile I drove.

I am happy to leave diet interventions and insights to leaders like - Dr. Terry Wahls, Dave Asprey, Dr. David Perlmutter and The Paleo Mom.

The focus of my work will be 100% dedicated to the power of the mind and how to create the energy space needed to overcome anything you want much like the work of Dr. Joe Dispenza.

This new focus will offer professionally produced content accessible to everyone with tips, tricks and tools to tap your BAM life. All based on true life lessons, science and the power of the human spirit. I am humbled to have great vendors that support this effort creating the space for my work to always be FREE to everyone.

You can learn more about all of these amazing companies here complete with discount codes.

For the last 15+ years I have studied the human psyche both in school and real life. I lived in community and supported all of our brothers and sisters providing me with tools and teachings to support your best life journey.

In addition long before my Paleo life I was a business woman who helped take idea’s and turning them into empires by building international branded companies. I have worked hard to bring this powerful part of my life and identity back and I am proud to report today I am working with some of the best and brightest brands in the business.

With great skill and expertise I treasure working with companies to increase brand awareness, obtain capital and to build organizations that make a difference in the lives of others. My new website will also reflect this aspect of my work and I could not be more proud.

Growth through evolution is my favorite way to live life.


I will continue to support all of my brothers and sisters and be of service while also dipping myself back into being the business women I was genetically born to be. My soul is alive when I am helping idea’s to cross the chasm and become brands. I am grateful beyond belief to be back in this energy space working with people and companies that up the volume on best life living everyday.

Last, but not least my speaking engagements, blogs, newsletter and social media life will continue just as it has with the only changes being the name and focus of my work.

The Italian girl lives in the kitchen and will continue to cook my way through life sharing as often as possible, but the core of my message goes much deeper than you plate and rests in your soul and everything outside of you.

Join me friends as we tap our BAM by rewiring our brain driven by self love. I simply can’t wait for all the future holds.




The Story of Joy - A True Story


The Story of Joy - A True Story

It is true my brand name is PaleoBOSS Lady® so most assume food is my only medicine. This could not be further from the truth. Yes a Paleo lifestyle and following The Wahls Protocol for years helped seal the deal for me. Yet is was the LAST piece of my miracle puzzle.

My brand started when the name was given to me. Yup.

At the time I had just started my Paleo lifestyle and lost so much weight everyone wanted to know. Seemed like all I did was talk about Paleo in the beginning. This coupled with being Italian, Taurus and a Philly girl I was born a BOSS. Today I am proud to be PaleoBOSS Lady.

I was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis (MS) in 1987 after getting sick in 1986 about 6 weeks after I married my high school sweetheart. From the first days of diagnosis I began a holistic journey using cannabis and essential oils for the treatment of MS. Of course I was still knee deep in Western Medicine taking all kinds of drugs, but not narcotics as often are prescribed. Instead I smoked weed for spasms and essential oils for calming. I still use both to this day. Actually having my morning cannabis and fat coffee as I type.

The beauty of my journey was the day I was diagnosed and before MS disease modifying drugs I was introduced to the National MS Society. (Today the MS society is on the drug company nipple and that will be another blog post, but back then they helped and listened.)

Since 1987 I have lived, served and been involved in the world of MS beyond a diagnosis.

For years I was the largest fund raiser in a few states sponsoring a successful MS Walk Team and eventually became a member of the National MS Society Board of Directors Delaware Chapter. I attended events on behalf of the MS Society, chaired many fund raisers and was a guest lecturer.

Since day one I have LIVED in the MS community serving others.

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Fast forward to now and I am starting my 4th round of the award winning ‘Taking it to the Streets Tour.” I have lived and served the community for free often living for days in the homes of our most in need. Many have had MS, but the majority of homes I served have not.

In addition since the age of 8 I have served our brothers and sisters in so many ways. I visited nursing homes on weekends sitting with a woman named Nancy who had MS. She was 37 when I met her. I have volunteered to build group homes for men living with Autism. I have served at a food pantry for 5 years and built asset based community systems in the poorest cities in Los Angeles. Not to mention I was part of a helicopter transport team for the largest burn center in the USA and was a respiratory therapist at a large teaching hospital. Serving others has been an constant in my life.

Needless to say I have learned a lot and my work has always informed my journey.

I remember almost daily a patient in Intensive Care named Bob who had so much cancer in his lungs and heart the doctors opened him up and closed him doing nothing in surgery to remove any cancer. The cancer was wrapped around everything and if it grew even the slightest he would die. Bob was 35 and his wife a recovery room nurse. He felt like family to all of us.

Somehow Bob survived. He literally walked out of the hospital and continued to live for a long time a quality life.

Funny thing is Bob ate like shit. He was a coaching dad known to take his team out for McDonalds and ice cream on the regular. He hated veggies and did not support his mitochondria at all. Bob was a sports nut so moving his body coaching and playing were the norm. In addition Bob had more visitors daily than any patient I had ever seen. You would hear laughter coming from his room so loud it was astounding. Most often in ICU you hear screams and tears. Not roaring laughter especially from the room of a dying young man, father and husband. Bob had 3 sons.

These memories have lived large in my mind for over 30 years.

Touring I have the pleasure of living with the most amazing people, host cooking classes, workshops and lectures all over the USA. To date I have been in front of almost 50,000 people touring alone. Literally stood in front of them and engaged in some way.

No clinical trials. No placebo groups. Just serving our brothers and sisters from the heart.

In 2018 I graduated with a Masters in Psychology having a specialization in Community. I am a specialist at building movements. Although today I am formally trained to do this work my life experience fuels my every move.

I have witnessed so many who eat the healthiest diet and go to the gym regularly have zero results in healing. Yet I see folks like my friend Bob who eat like shit and moves for fun rather than intention walk around defying the odds daily. How could this be? Was Bob somehow special?


Bob had joy in his heart. You felt it the moment you entered his space.

Even hooked up to a ventilator unable to talk you still felt his joy. His heart sang songs of joy all day long without every hearing him. His person filled with gratitude. When he walked out of the hospital there was no less than 50 people with him.

Joy is why Bob lived. Not food. Not movement.

When people ask me for a timeline of healing I no longer answer. My healing journey has had results after instituting certain changes for sure. Yet the true healing antidote without question is JOY. I have seen it over and over and over again.

  • I don’t need a clinical trial to know what is right in front of my eyes.

  • I don’t need a MAP to know the power of joy.

  • I don’t need to anymore evidence to know the truth.


Healing happens in joy. Live a life filled with joy and your body will respond.

How to you find JOY?

  1. Start by talking to your person honestly.

  2. Sit on the side of your bed before you retire and recall the joy in your day.

  3. If you cannot recall within 30 seconds you are not living joyfully.

  4. Continue this practice every night until you can.

Friends this is what tool I have in my “Bag of Tricks” that helped me find and own my joy. It has never failed me and is free healthcare. Get some.

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How I Care for my Dog - Food, Fleas and More


How I Care for my Dog - Food, Fleas and More

If you know me at all you know I am a HUGE dog lover. My dog Gidget goes just about everywhere with me. I simply could not do the tour if she were not by my side. I also would not be the miracle I am if not for dogs. Prior to Gidget I had my girl Rita for almost 12 years who stood by me in the hardest of times.

Dogs are my most important healthcare in my ‘Bag of Tricks.”

For years studies have shown how many health benefits animals offer that are psychological. However most recently we are learning the dogs play a huge role in the gut micro-biome and so much more.

I was Paleo for a few years before I ever considered feeding my dog consciously. Sad, but true.


Rita has suffered from severe allergies that started after we moved to California. She could not walk on grass, sand or anything but concrete or she would break out in a rash. Literally I was spending hundreds of dollars on allergy shots, prescription dog food, steroid creams and the list goes on. One day when I was putting her dry, disgusting prescribed food in her bowl I decided to read the ingredients:

  • Brewers Rice, Whole Grain Wheat, Whole Grain Corn, Powdered Cellulose, Soybean Mill Run, Animal Fat (preserved with mixed tocopherols and citric acid), Dried Egg Product, Chicken Liver Flavor, Soybean Oil, Lactic Acid, Flaxseed, Potassium Chloride, vitamins (L-Ascorbyl-2-Polyphosphate (source of vitamin C), Vitamin E Supplement, Niacin, Thiamine Mononitrate, Vitamin A Supplement, Calcium Pantothenate, Biotin, Vitamin B12 Supplement, Pyridoxine Hydrochloride, Riboflavin, Folic Acid, Vitamin D3 Supplement), Iodized Salt, Dried Chicken Cartilage, Choline Chloride, Vitamin E Supplement, Taurine, minerals (Ferrous Sulfate, Zinc Oxide, Copper Sulfate, Manganous Oxide, Calcium Iodate, Sodium Selenite), preserved with Mixed Tocopherols and Citric Acid, L-Carnitine, Phosphoric Acid, Beta-Carotene, Rosemary Extract.

Even with a Vets prescription the food I was giving my dog was straight up poison to her body. Soybean oli is unhealthy period. The grains hard for dogs to digest and I was paying top dollar for crap.

I started giving Rita organic carrots, sweet potato and pumpkin, home made bone broth, coconut oil, roasted chicken with a weekly raw bone marrow. Just like her mommy Rita responded well when we finally got conscious about what I was feeding my dog. I eventually started giving Rita raw duck mixed with organ meat and healthy veggies.


My sweet dog literally acted like she died and went to heaven with each meal and her body completely healed after many years of sickness and high vet bills.

After Rita passed she sent me Gidget who I rescued 3 years ago at the age of 2. Immediately I started Gidget on a 100% Paleo lifestyle. She eats Stella and Chewy’s Surf & Turf patties and also bone broth, marrow bones, carrots, pureed sweet potato and pumpkin. Her favorite crunchy snacks are Jackson’s Honest Sweet Potato Chips and carrots and her favorite fat is coconut fat. (There are many dog friendly fruits and veggies, but Gidget only likes what I listed.)

The moral of the story is that Gidget eats whole, organic foods, healthy fats & collagen rich bone broth just like her momma!

Today Gidget is an optimal weight and has the softest skin you can ever imagine. The coconut oil helps her gums and she is full of life. This is her eating schedule:

I am humbled to share that my good friends from Nutpods have been paying for Gidget’s food since we started touring. Literally my heart swells every time I am reminded of their generosity.


In Southern California there seem to always be fleas all year long. I was crazy and started giving the flea and tick pill the vet pushes. OMG it literally made Gidget lifeless. She became almost a zombie and once again I woke up.

I started doing research and you can easily make your own essential oil blends for this. I have chosen to use a collar that is made from essential oils for Gidget. This lasts for us about 3-5 months and worked well all summer touring. We only ever had a problem once with sand fleas. Otherwise it worked perfectly.

  • Here is an essential oil recipe that you can also try:
    8 drops sweet orange essential oil
    8 drops lavender essential oil
    8 drops lemongrass essential oil
    12 drops geranium essential oil
    20 drops patchouli essential oil
    20 drops cedarwood essential oil

Add this to a small spray bottle with water. Spray on your dog when heading outside paying extra attention to their underbelly and legs/feet. Give them a quick brush after spraying and/or massage and you are set. Here is a set of organic therapeutic grade oils to use.

I also make sure to thoroughly check for ticks on Gidget whenever we are any where of concern which quite honestly means after almost all walks in nature outside of the beach. It seems ticks are everywhere and no matter what I check with my hands and eyes to make sure my little angel is tick free.



I am not going to lie this does not happen often. I find her skin would get too dry. About 4 times a year Gidget goes in for a trim and holistic bath/spa day. The Spa only uses clean shampoos and non-toxic ingredients.

Outside of her spa day when I have to bath her I use Dr. Bronner’s which is what I use on myself. They say it works to kill fleas and great once they are infested. You can also add essential oils to this for extra BAM.

I brush Gidget often using a brush to reduce shedding. The neat freak in me loves how this one works and Gidget adores being brushed too. During the dryer months I rub coconut oil on her coat. It helps to stop dry, flaky skin. Gidget’s coat is the softest ever and many people comment on just how soft it is.


Hemp oil for me is a huge BAM in my life. My lead sponsor of the tour Elixinol grow the finest CBD oil around with independent testing to prove it. They also have a dog line of treats. I personally just give dogs the oil straight up. I like to open the capsule and put it on the morning pumpkin purees or sweet potato.

My daughters dog Riley has had a MIRACLE outcome using Elixinol CBD. Our little girl Riley is 5 years young and was diagnosed with Addison’s Disease. She had been taking steroids everyday and started to not be able to use her hind legs and breaking out with scabs on her body. Long story short doctor after doctor and drug after drug the poor baby was suffering and no one knew what to do.

This gal started adding 15mg Elixinol hemp oil using the X-Pen to her food and my kid added a natural liver booster and Glutamine. After a few weeks we increased the CBD dose to twice a day. Her labs had been horrific showing anemia and much more. Today her labs are better than before her Addison’s diagnosis.

For Gidget CBD oil showed great results with anxiety. When we are touring for long periods of time Gidget gets a little stressed. CBD given in the early morning worked all day long. For Gidget I open a capsule and add it to her morning puree.

I have no words to express how much I believe in the power of CBD. Last year touring in the BAM van which is wrapped in hemp leaves showed me that CBD is changing so many lives. Day after day, person after person shared with me just how much this plant has restored hope and health. I am here to share it works for our 4-legged friends too.


Beside what is noted above Gidget goes to a yearly wellness visit at the vet and is in great health.

I go to a traditional vet who is quite old. His practice is very nurturing and he listens to me. I do test for heart-worm and give her Heart Guard. Only because of our touring schedule. If we simply lived in Southern California I would not and did not prior to touring.

Gidget is a rescue and had all of her vaccines prior to me owing her. Today she is vaccinated for rabies.

My 4-legged friends are beyond companions. They are medicine for my soul and have provided more loving support than anyone or anything. Rita stood by me many days in bed and very sick. She also gave me purpose and forced me to get outside when I didn’t think I could get out of bed.

I support my dogs as consciously as I do myself. Together we are bio-hacking to offer Gidget optimal living naturally and without drugs and fake shit.

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A Life in Review


A Life in Review

As many of you know this gal is a goal setter. I live for the kill of successfully completing goals. I have also lived outside of societal and cultural norms most of my adult life. This time of year is when I review my year, reflect & set goals for the coming year.

This year is different all together & so unexpected simply because my kid got engaged.

Never did I sit to think about all the societal & cultural norms that are associated with weddings. All of this has left me with a “Life in Review.” Literally the emotional reflective journey the engagement has brought to my life I did not see coming. Nor did I think it would have me do a “Life in Review” this year as opposed to a reflection.

You see the things that make me a straight up a walking miracle & BOSS come with ‘side-effects’ that I only learn about in real time.


A huge part of my healing is ‘controlling’ my environment of toxins which includes people. Being raised in such a dysfunctional family my ‘healthy’ relationship skills are lacking big time. So many in my life were toxic & a ton were family. I basically have little relations with any blood relatives except for a handful.

In addition to my ‘healthy’ relationship issues part of my charm is I have no problem telling anyone to “F off” which can be limiting.

All of this adds up to a very small circle of close friends. Now don’t get me wrong I realize I am a paid ‘influencer’ with an international following and that people have been known to pay money to spend time with me yet I don’t have a large circle of close friends. I have a handful and they are ‘my family.’ Many for decades who actually knew me before Multiple Sclerosis (MS) which matters so much to me.

I am an international brand with a very small circle of friends is one of the things the engagement has brought to the surface.

I have been so busy working on miracle status I never really thought about how my ‘circle’ has evolved during this healing journey. As a result the day my daughter gets married I will be entering a room of almost 200 people as the ‘Mother- of-the-Bride’ (MOB) and in that room may be a handful of people close to me and zero family.

This has been a gut wrenching real time situation for me.

It has taken me hours upon hours of hard self reflection to understand how I got here. From the word ‘go’ it has felt like I am a complete failure as a mom. Society places huge value on those in the room and on being MOB. I realized this is not what I have always envisioned on my daughters wedding day. My lens included that day filled with huge pride as friends and family bear witness to my daughters marriage to the man of her dreams.

Because my life regarding family sits outside of societal norms it appears my guest list didn’t pass the cultural norms test. This wedding even though my daughter’s - includes a traditional definition for family in the guest list. ‘Blood only’ which for most large Italian families always makes sense. The sad truth is that it without intention it dismisses me in the process. A reality I don’t think anyone realizes or understands.

I am not mad. I am not pointing fingers I am simply speaking a truth and how consciousness often puts you in situations like this you never saw coming. The last thing I want to be is an MOB who is an asshole so I thought and prayed really hard to figure out what this was and how to handle it. Once again all roads lead to my life choices to live consciously have somehow ‘ostracized’ me in a traditional wedding regardless of the fact I am MOB.

Cultural Collision once again happening here.

Just like my family did not understand the importance of my life to use food outside of cultural definition such as medicine and to recognize some was poison they once again failed to recognize family falls outside of defined cultural and societal norms for some.

Because my life choices fall outside of norms I don’t fit into defined criteria for family so it is not even seen. I am not for one second saying this is being done to be hurtful I am saying no one saw it coming. Not even me and I guess that is why the lesson has been so hard. Just like my daughter had dreams of her special day so did I. Little did I know how much my healing, miracle life would change those dreams.

Now before anybody gets their panties in a bunch this is not a post that I am mad at my kid. This is also not a post that my kid is a bad daughter. I have shared all of this with my daughter. This is a post similar to my TEDx sharing the HUGE challenges one faces when you live a conscious life and have your eyes wide open vs. societal norms determining who you are.

Situations like this have me review my entire life .

Not going to lie I keep wondering how the fuck did I get to a place where my life joy is getting married in front of 200 people and no one I care about will be there to share in this special day? I lose sleep thinking where I will sit at my own daughter’s wedding. Initially all I thought was how the fuck did this happen?

This happened because my life does not fit into ‘societal’ norms.


What makes people most proud of me and defines the brand PaleoBOSS Lady® many times is not translated into normal life. People somehow want me to fit a norm the miracle me is unable to fit.. My #1 message about being a miracle is that it happens outside of norms and often causes a collision. Little did I know that even when your daughter gets married it will cause a collision.

As we continue to plan the wedding it brings my heart great joy to see my daughter so excited to be planning her life and dream wedding. I never really played out the daughter getting married journey in my mind and found this collision one of the hardest to date. Standing alone on such a special day was never in any play book, but hence this is where we are due to my conscious choices needed to live my best life.

How I Plan to Resolve This Collision?

  • Stay on my path.

  • Lead by example.

  • Believe all of this stands to educate others.

  • Know life always provides.

  • Make sure that when I enter the room heads turn.

  • Continue to be honest about my feelings.

I will say I have spent far to many hours wondering why my life has included no life partner, 2 failed marriages, living in 20+ homes, often being the only women in the board room and now living in a van serving. How come I didn’t get the play book that was get married, have kids, buy a house, pay it off, buy a beach house and be married for 50+ years while helping raise the grand-kids?

The answer is always me. My life is me.

I know that life is not defined by the number of people in a room at your daughters wedding who care about you and yet I also know overcoming the societal norms associated with such a day have been a huge hurdle I never saw coming. All of this happened side-by-side with my gluten poisoning which may have kept my gut health a challenge. Yet in the end it all really doesn’t matter. What matters is that when I look in the mirror I know what I see and often society will see it differently and I am okay with that. This is why I am a BOSS. Standing alone is where I am most comfortable & where I thrive even if it is my daughter’s wedding.




How Not Focusing on Healing is Powerful Medicine


How Not Focusing on Healing is Powerful Medicine

Touring I am fortunate enough to be invited into people’s homes and lives on almost a daily basis. Although my tour is not focused on Multiple Sclerosis (MS) many I visit do have mobility and/or limb issues. If I ask them what they wished would change in a year the answer is always universal – “I want to walk” or “I want to use my arms/hands.” Even if many were depressed, sad or struggling with anxiety, bad marriages, finances and more they always want to have their body back.

Never is it that they want to be happy & healthy.

Somehow the societal norm is happiness equals using our limbs freely. I know because for years once I started to live with MS I would tell my kid and spouse if I was in a wheelchair my life would be over. Until one day I woke up and my hands didn’t work. Quickly I began to realize that many in wheelchairs and with limb issues live exceptional lives and most were happy with their lives.

Quickly once I was living it I changed my tune that a wheelchair or my hands were not going to define me. They were only one part of me.

I asked myself and the tour friends did they think “happiness existed outside of a wheelchair or mobility issue?” Unanimously they responded, “of course it did.” Funny since at the same time each of us had wished for only mobility related changes in the year.

Societal norms influences our wishes too.

Just like I mention in my TEDx societal norms come into play in the strangest ways sometimes. This is another example of the role in our lives and once again found to be an almost universal norm in many societies.

Somehow we all believe(d) if we got it right we would be without a wheelchair & have our limbs moving freely. For most of is this instead of being happy, healthy and loved.

We all know that living a happy, healthy & full life are the keys to BAM.

When we focus on one area or body part we are discounting the fullness of what life has to offer. When we focus on living a life that represents the best version of ourselves it creates the space for healing and the powerful medicine mentioned in the title.

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Key to my lens for healing are reminders that I decided or the what and why of my life.

  • No longer am I living an auto-pilot existence.

  • No longer is MS me.

  • No longer do I take Mother Nature for granted.

  • No longer do I ask more of my body than I give it. .

  • No longer do I consciously self poison with food.

  • No longer to have a negative impact on the earth without conscious effort to change.

  • No longer do I cook with foods I have no idea where they came from.

  • No longer do I believe western medicine is the only answer.

  • No longer do I believe my healthcare comes from big pharma.

  • No longer do I believe I am powerless against MS.

  • No longer do I believe our environment is toxin free.

  • No longer do I believe our water is safe to drink.

  • No longer do I believe our oceans are clean.

  • No longer do I believe my life trajectory was to be bedridden.

  • No longer do I believe eating processed food is a good idea.

  • No longer do I believe refined sugar is not poison.

  • No longer do I believe gluten is safe for anyone to eat.

  • No longer do I believe the person with the most stuff wins.

  • No longer do I believe the mind-body connection doesn’t matter.

  • No longer do I believe western medicine is healing focused.

Today I am conscious and not making life choices because of MS as much as because this is what is best for me and all that I am.

Once I began focusing on living my best life and not always MS and healing my body the true healing could begin. The healing that not only stopped what MS was doing to my body, but manages and reversed all that MS delivered(s).

Try taking your eye off of what brought you to consciousness and have both eyes focus on LIVING YOUR BEST LIFE!










Healing is Not Just For Me


Healing is Not Just For Me

One of the things I know for certain is that we all have the right to heal our bodies. That does not mean everyone is going to heal from everything, but it does mean we all have the same options before us regarding consciousness.

Now clearly if your body is filled with a deadly invasion this is an entire new level and I have no insight. If you live with allergies, constipation, disease or any condition we each have the same choices before us.

Healing comes from consciousness.

Once I realized the role I had in sickness and health beyond going to the doctor and taking drugs I made healing available to me. I had to own me. Every thought and interaction. 100%.

The autopilot of life had to stop and once that does ownership came right along with it. I remember being in the temple at Burning Man and realizing for the very 1st time I had a role in my health beyond being a good patient.

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What a fucking concept.

Not once did anyone tell me I had a role in Multiple Sclerosis (MS) beyond preparing myself for life with a progressive often cruel disease. I was lead to believe I was now simply a victim in waiting regarding life with MS. We simply were told to hope for the best and pray.

For decades I hoped for the fucking best.

I did every damn thing the doctors told me. I spent money and traveled far to see 'the best' in everything MS and all this did was create space for MS to continue to be in control .

Everything I did was in response to MS.

Western medicine is a response only healthcare. You have a problem they will fix it and most often with drugs to simply get rid of the symptom. You have heartburn after eating pizza simply take a pill to make it go away.

Western medicine does nothing to understand the way of healthcare.

My miracle status is because I answered and continue to answer every why. Every day.

  • Healing did not happen in a finite period of time.
  • Healing did not happen because I simply changed my diet.
  • Healing did not happen because I love to work out.
  • Healing did not happen because I fell in love with me.

I know this surprises you. All of those things are the steps that lead to the miracle known as PalreoBOSS Lady.

Knowing my why is why I am in this miracle journey. Knowing MY WHY outside of societal and cultural norms lead me to the healing steps I share above.

Healing is not only for V. It is for anyone who is willing to truly wake up & know their WHY!

Western medicine does not care about the why. Instead they care about keeping the body free of symptoms using drug therapy.

I am a miracle because I know my why. Do you know your why?


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Review of Green Enough


Review of Green Enough

The book Green Enough is a book filled with tips, tricks and insights into how to detox your home from top to bottom. Written by Leah Segedie this book offers a lens for the entire family to learn how to live consciously.


I first was introduced to Leah's work about 3 years ago when I attended ShiftCon. Shiftcon is an eco-blogger event founded by Leah. Shiftcon is also the most supportive environment I ever participated in with my peers. From the moment you enter ShiftCon and at event you are supported, educated and respected for your contributions.

I was excited to read this book knowing Leah personally and how much she has opened my lens. I thought I was conscious and as I turned page after page I realized just how much I still need to learn. Love being a student! In addition not a handful of pages into the book when the 'f' bomb was dropped. I nearly jumped for joy. seeing this. I love someone who keeps it real. I fired a literary agent and co-writer for a book I want to write because they told me no one will respect me if I use curse words. They told me it tarnishes all the words on the page. How wrong they are because after reading Green Enough I confirmed once again the use of 'swear' words merely serve to get our attention and exclamation to our words. .

I love how Leah breaks things down in each chapter focusing on a different area of your home and lifestyle choices.

So many of us get caught up in the auto pilot of life and forget to really make sure we are awake and aware of what we are eating, and putting in our homes. Environmental toxins are everywhere and Leah helps to cut the barrier to entry so we can really understand just where toxins may be leaking and steps we can take. I love how the book puts things in categories for so many of our favorite things letting you know what are the worst, medium and best choices we can make. Immediately I felt empowered with my knowledge.

From room to room and in every important aspect of your life Leah inspires the reader to begin to question the status quo in an easy to read and powerful book.

The book includes recipes, how to clean your home 'green', DIY household product idea's and even goes so far as to call out companies not walking the walk. I love Green Enough for its straight forward approach to life and the drops of wisdom on day to day living mixed with approachable science.

I think Green Enough is a must have for every home and everyone. Brava Leah. You have done it again with excellent content. BAM.


The Missing Piece to Healing is Not Food


The Missing Piece to Healing is Not Food

  • Special Edition Blog Post!

  • Featuring V Capaldi and Trevor Wicken of The MS Gym!

Now once again please don't freak out by the title simply because my brand is named PaleoBOSS. Hear me out. As one of the most healed with secondary progressive Multiple Sclerosis (MS), former board member of the Delaware National MS Society and someone who tours the USA living with others I would think my insights are valuable. 

Food was my last piece to the miracle life puzzle. It is 100% important,but not the most important.

So often I meet people and they are trying so hard to use food to change their life outcome and are seriously struggling and big time. When I 1st started touring I was shocked at how many people were failing at trying to heal. Until I realized most were just starting and doing so with food. 

I personally disagree with this as the 1st step and know why most if not all seem to feel they are failing.

I spent hours working on figuring the why and as usual my reference is my own personal experience leading me to realize the order to a miracle life starts with moving your body, loving yourself followed by consciousness regarding diet & lifestyle. 

There was a common thread in all of this and after a year of living with others I noticed this pattern. Most are coming to a holistic healing lifestyle by way of food and it stops there. I personally don't think that is the right approach and it certainly was not mine.

I also don't believe food should be the 1st step. I believe it is the last step and not because it was my path. 

I can count on one hand the number of people I have met who are able to stick to a food as medicine lifestyle. Most seem like the stereotypical New Year's resolution and launch with great momentum then die off. Time and time again I see this as a common thread.

Believe it or not I have the answer to this problem and I know it is the golden ticket like Willy Wonka. 

When Movement and getting your mind right are the start of your journey into miracle status you not only start a conscious relationship with yourself it has shown to motivate you to make other healthy lifestyle choices. Getting to know your body through movement is key and will be a huge part of your road to BAM.

Thoughts from Trevor of The MS Gym-


Moving your body does 3 things: 

#1 Exercise releases “feel good” chemicals called endorphins. 
These hormones work to inhibit the pain receptors in your joints, muscles, and brain. Endorphins also act as natural anti-depressants and anti-anxiety chemicals to bring your body back to a state of calm and composure to ward off things like panic attacks, depression, and dementia. 

Daily exercise like dancing, dynamic stretching, yoga, balance training, core strengthening, full body resistance exercises, and sustained / interval based exercise has also been proven to:

- Boost self-esteem
- Improve sleep
- Increase memory
- Allow you to focus better
- Clear brain fog

Moving = Happiness

#2 Exercise improves Your Over All Health & Physiologic Function of your body:
Exercise not only helps your body counteract your stress and fatigue but also helps you manage and reduce the intensity of your MS symptoms. When your body functions better, it can find a balanced state of functioning quicker and maintain that balanced state better. 

This is super helpful for MSers since your body is constantly riding the MS roller coaster and having to re-adjust on the fly as your symptoms can change week to week or even day to day. Exercises teaches your brain to find alternative pathways around your damaged MS nervous system and improve your strength, balance, coordination, and endurance. As these physiologic components improve, your body gets stronger which trains it to fight off MS better. 

With this, Exercise also has these added health benefits: 
- It strengthens your heart
- It increases energy
- It lowers blood pressure
- It improves muscle tone
- It strengthens and builds bones
- It helps to reduce body fat
- It makes you look and feel fit and healthy

Movement Is Medicine. Take your daily dose!

#3 Exercise flushes out toxins and brings in oxygen and nutrients
As you exercise your heart rate, respiration, and blood flow increase. When this happens, it signals your blood vessels to dilate and allow more blood to flow in and out of your tissues, more oxygen to get into your lungs and bloodstream, and more toxins to be filtered out of your body. 

This means that your cells are absorbing more nutrition to feed your muscles and nerves, delivering more oxygen to your cells which decreases fatigue, and flushing out bad chemicals and waste out of your body that cloud your thoughts, stiffen your muscles, slow down your nerves, and destroy your body. 

Movement is one of (if not THE) MAJOR driving force behind all physiologic function in your body. If you move you live. If you don’t you die. Period.  


Thanks Trevor for these words of BAM regarding movement!

Once you are loving the movement portion on the road to a miracle life you often start feeling better about yourself which creates the space for a kinder & gentler you to emerge. This often brings a loving lens which allows the conscious awareness self love work to easily be brought into the journey. It is in this space you bring about a lens that will support a healthy food journey. A road that exists without deprivation, fear, anger and a fight it out of mentality. 

i say it often and I mean it with 100% certainty that I am not mad I have MS. In fact the things I love about myself are a direct result of living with MS. This my friends is how we heal. Food seals the deal after you got steps 1 & 2 down.

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Failure to Launch


Failure to Launch

Touring is a life changing experience and I am learning every day. Being invited to share others lives is a great gift and I am humbled daily that this is my life.

I am also no longer surprised at how much we live in a world that includes what I call, 'Failure to Launch.'

The work I do deals mostly with individuals/families in need who are dealing with a physical or psychological issue. Most of what we do based on psychology and the idea of a Failure to Launch' seems to happen often in many households.

When you are dealing with any area in life that requires help from another we begin to set the ground for a failure to launch. Last time I checked we all come up against this because truly living does not happen without a little help from our friends. A 'Failure to Launch' seems to be something we all face and work to overcome at least once in our lifetime. For me it has happened more frequently.

When your need for help is almost daily a 'Failure to Launch' really becomes an issue.


Seldom does a daily need have to become a life script yet many have trouble stopping this from happening. More often than not actions viewed as helping can have the opposite outcome serving to be enabling and condoning of someones situation.

With anxiety and autoimmune disease being huge problems in American I often see families dealing with these issues on the daily. Building a padded house and lifestyle is not the answer. Supporting a sustainable lifestyle is and changing the household narrative to support the needs of others is most important here.

Helping in excess can cripple the ability to overcome any life adversity. When illness comes into play we all want to help. However help has to be as conscious as the work needed to grow. When we continue to keep doing everything beyond a triage situation we hurt rather than help. Don't discount the role an autopilot life plays in a 'Failure to Launch' specifically when the role of parent/child comes into play.


Here are a few words of advice:

  • To the person or family dealing with anxiety and depression of a loved one be sure to engage then daily and encourage their life. Don't walk on egg crates and stop challenging their life choices. Be present with them everyday.
  • To the family whose dealing with a disease that makes a loved ones mobility a challenge remember this does not mean they are unable. It means new ways of moving and working have to be constructed to support the challenges. Doing is not helping.
  • To the person dealing with a physical or mental issue stop abusing the generosity of others. Do whatever you can for yourself always and no matter what. How long it takes is not an issue. The freedom to care for yourself is your greatest gift. Do not freely give it away and take care of whatever you can for you.
  • To the family surrounded by changes due to any illness remember we all have the right to live our best life and define how this looks. Judgement and lack of support stand have no place here. Different or conscious does not mean difficult. Supporting our life choices is a huge healing modality.

I don't mean to sound harsh, but these are patterns I can personally relate too as I have lived times that included the 'Failure to Launch' life.

By understanding the fine line between helping and harming a failure to launch can be avoided.

Being conscious about life is not always easy so be prepared to have to take a stand and be brutally honest with yourself and others especially when you are in need. Many times we realize in this journey that cultural and societal norms play a huge role and often dictate actions that set the stage for a 'Failure to Launch.' Needing help and giving to another are actions that should be clearly defined with goals so that the stage is not set to fail either party. Simply helping or being helped are not enough. Goals, activities and measurements for success need to be clearly defined at all times so helping does not become hurting.

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Chutzpah verses Fear


Chutzpah verses Fear

There was a time when fear ruled my life. Every decision I made a fear driven reality. Living with Multiple Sclerosis (MS) fear became my life force.

Having MS meant for years that I could not count on my body even for a minute. No two seconds of living ever the same never knowing which part of my body would function and/or when. Life was very scary with MS winning almost every hand I was dealt for a long ass time.

Circa 2010 and I am studying to get my BA in Psychology at Antioch University in Los Angeles. I fell in love with Narrative Therapy & the teacher who specialized in this post modern form of psychotherapy Charlie Lang. Narrative Therapy considers people are the expert in their own lives and uses language to recreate new narratives. Narrative therapy also considers problems we face separate from the person and that we all have the skills necessary to create change.

The start of each class Charlie asked for a volunteer to stage a 'mock therapy session' in front of the class. I literally jumped out of my seat begging to be picked. Little did everyone know I was about to give a real therapy session in front of everyone. My life filled with fear and I was no longer living.

At this time in life things were spinning out of control. MS was calling the shots which translated into a life faced with the choices of homelessness, institutionalization or I was contemplating suicide. I had little to no use of my hands, healthcare costs were so high my life savings almost depleted & I lived in constant pain. Trouble swallowing was increasing & I knew my days of using my body freely were numbered. At this point I had no hope & no tools to beat MS & fear was deciding every second of my life response to MS.

The day of class I found myself overcome with fear. Crippled by its power I was a complete mess & barely hanging on. Somehow I knew that Charlie could sense my urgency picking me to be in front of the class for the 'mock therapy' session.

Charlie starting by asking me what I would like to talk about during the session and I said fear. He asked what fear was to me so he could clearly understand what I meant by fear. I explained that fear was the leader in my life making all the decisions. I also shared how crippling it was making choices harder and harder to come by.

Next Charlie asked how long I lived with fear calling the shots and I explained since MS entered my body it was in charge because of the nature of its devastation.

The next question Charlie asked changed my life: 'Before fear what was calling the shots in your life V?'

I thought for what felt like so much time to answer this question. I remember sitting in front of everyone thinking back to before fear ruled my every move. Quite honestly I had forgotten what life was like before fear yet I knew it was not the ruler of my life journey before MS. It took me so long to remind myself of life before fear.

Suddenly it hit me! I had Chutzpah! Chutzpah ruled my life before fear!

Remembering this I began to feel better because quite honestly I had forgotten I had courage. Fear was so powerful I literally forgot who I was & the tools I had.

For the remainder of the class session Charlie had both us play the roles of Fear talking to Chutzpah and I was quickly reminded that there was more to me than fear. MS had so clouded my person that I forgot the tools I had inside me. This was a huge eye opening moment for me which began the journey to BAM I am living today.

By 2011 my fear was becoming less and less with my person making choices that were based on best life living and no longer motivated by fear alone. Before the year ended I saw the life changing TEDx by my hero, friend and mentor, Dr. Terry Wahls and was now ready to begin my journey to miracle status.

The work of the brand of PaleoBOSS Lady centers around changing our life narrative from autopilot to living. Often during this work many of us are reintroduced to the assets of love, survival and joy that live inside of us which are forgotten when we live a life of routine following both cultural and societal norms.

With 1 in 5 being disabled in the USA I am sure fear lives in many of us. My brands work focuses on reminding ourselves that we are not defined by what life throws our way, but how we respond. Somehow I forgot the power of me in the face of MS and all that is V. Today I gladly show MS who is BOSS which could only have happened once I kicked fear out of the building.

Got fear? Dig deep inside to remind yourself what defined you before fear entered the building so you too can tap your BAM.




"Free Your Mind & the Rest Will Follow"


"Free Your Mind & the Rest Will Follow"

So often during my tour & with my work as PaleoBOSS Lady I hear from the community that they are eating healthy, but still have not achieved miracle status. Food is only one piece of the puzzle. Actually the key to successfully healing for this gal began with getting my mind right.

The psyche is the key to a successful miracle outcome.

Getting your mind right is where the healing starts & ends. For so many of us we refer to eating whole foods as a diet. This alone presents a problem for healing. Giving up processed foods is not a diet it is a conscious choice to honor your body & your person. I personally consider this step #1 in tapping your miracle.

As long as we believe eating healthy is a diet failure will be part of the equation.

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When I sit down to eat I look at my plate with joy that I now get to thank my amazing body for all it afforded me that day. I find myself excited & grateful to nourish myself with each bite.

Living with Multiple Sclerosis for 30 years I can tell you that food truly is poison or medicine.

I can also share that the autopilot of life will be the quickest way to end up with disease & suffering. 1-5 are disabled in America alone with the number projected to be 1-3 in the next 4 years.

Simple facts like gluten is directly connected to inflammation which is connected to autoimmune disease cannot be denied or ignored yet many of us still to this day think going gluten free is a fad or only for those with Celiac. Wrong.

Waking up to what we are eating & putting in our body should be the societal norm.

However in the consumer driven world we live this is far from the case. Most food choices are based on taste & often price alone for many of us. Seldom if ever are we reading ingredient lists. Often we simply eat whatever we want with zero consciousness regarding what we are eating.

Eating foods without knowing what ingredients are in them is simply mind blowing & the result of marketing success by the companies that make the products.

With over 85% of grocery stores selling processed foods clearly 'mad men' are winning.

So how do you free your mind? How do you begin to wake up?

Step 1 is to commit to opening your eyes & mind to daily life. Literally asking & answering the why of what you do all day every day especially regarding the foods you eat.

A simple step is to realize what you are eating each day. Walk over to your pantry or kitchen cabinets & begin to simply read ingredient . This can be a very powerful & eye opening experience.

I suggest if you do not know EXACTLY what an ingredient is do not eat it.

Here is an example of an ingredient list for Swiss Miss Hot Cocoa:

Sugar, corn syrup, modified whey, cocoa (processed with alkali), hydrogenated coconut oil, nonfat milk,, calcium carbonate, less than 2% of: salt, dipotassium phosphate, mono-and diglycerides, carrageenan, acesulfame potassium, sucralose, artificial flavor. contains: milk.

Every ingredient listed I do not know what they are even sugar & corn syrup. Refined sugar is a modified form of sugar meaning it is not natural. Corn syrup can be filled with GMO's which is not clearly noted. Literally this drink is toxic waste dump we often give our kids without any hesitation.

Eating consciously is not a diet it is self respect married to self love.

In order to free your mind you need to remove the autopilot of life to stop living a life based on consumer driven societal norms.

Freeing your mind happens when you wake up. Literally it is that simple.

Yet somehow we feel like it is hard & not sustainable. I believe in you & hope this inspires you to begin to live a life of BAM because you know each action you take should be about being the best version of YOU.

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The Role of Your Past


The Role of Your Past

I am not going to lie I live in the narrative world & after years upon years of therapy have finally been able to understand the role the past plays in my life today.


Now don't get your panties in a bunch & hear me out. Sure the past can often be stamped into our memory so strong we cannot seem to forget. My past was nothing short of being filled with gut wrenching hardship & truly remarkable joy. Yet neither of those define who I am.

As someone who did a TEDx on the power of culture to influence life you might think otherwise. Just as my culture has had a role in the person I am it does not define me.

I define me.

In a narrative world respect for the past is understood yet it strives to re-tell your own story. I sat many hours in a therapist office hearing how the past was responsible for my current story. I beg to differ believing that the I get to author my own story by constructing new meanings to emotions, thoughts and outcomes from the past. 

The past does not define me.

As someone living in community invited into people's homes & having the opportunity to be vulnerable with each other I hear quite often how the past is the reason for this or that. "I am this way because when I was raised..." are common responses to why things are the way they are or why growth is not happening.

As I shared in my TEDx "Cultural Collision" I think many of us choose an autopilot existence allowing for the past to become a scapegoat for all things important in tapping our miracle life.

Once I began to get conscious with the who, what & why of my life story the past became a story that I got to rewrite & not one that defined me. Multiple Sclerosis (MS) used to define me until I was able to realize the story is not written by MS it is written by me. If MS was defining me it was because that is what I allowed for.

My mother was an addict which for many years did define my life. Even in therapy all the hours spent were often talking about the role having an addicted mom played in my life outcome. I felt like I spent years in therapy talking about mom & her why which produced nothing to help me tap my best life. Instead it provided me with 'reasons' for my struggles offering zero tools to rewrite the story.

I say hogwash to that.

The narrative of my life included an addicted mom this is true however the story I tell is mine regardless of how my mothers life was defined. Her actions are her life.

My actions only define & are responsible for my life.

I personally believe that once we can start to realize we are the only creators of our story can we tap our BAM. As long as we let the actions, idea's and outcome of others share in our narrative we are going to be unable to raise the roof on our own lives.

Autopilot living which includes many cultural norms make it impossible to have a narrative that is a path to your miracle life. We each need to recognize the past as a script that we get to re-write so we can define our journey and not as the reason for our why.

Your story today is written only by you not your past.

Not going to lie this concept has been so freeing for me similar to ditching the scale & no longer counting calories all of which were cultural norms I adhered to for far to long.

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The Art of Living Your Joy


The Art of Living Your Joy

It was the last event I was doing in 2016 & one of the funnest nights of the tour. The guests were so engaged, excited & interested it truly was a great night. The home hosting the event simply breath taking & every detail spot on. I literally was walking on sunshine making my way to the car about to head out calling it a night. Tired yet so excited this was the last day of the tour in 2016. The next day Gidget & I would begin making our trip back to LA for a rest month. All I knew was that my heart was full & it was a great night.

Then a magical thing happened that I never saw coming.

One of the guests came out to the car to tell me I had really hit on something during my talk that was kind of a 'brick hit forehead' situation.

The moment I shared I wake up with joy in my person everyday.

The guest literally said hearing those words immediately brought their attention to their own life & they realized joy was missing. They had a lot to be thankful for, but could not remember the last time they felt pure joy.

The definition of joy is something like feeling happy or having great pleasure says Google. For me joy is being conscious about life.

Funny isn't it that by society standards I might be considered 'not a good look.'

  • I am homeless & have virtually nothing with my total possessions close to only 50 items.
  • I have no clear idea where I am going to be resting my head from month to month and cannot tell you what the future holds.
  • I live at poverty with a disease that is known to bankrupt almost 90% of those suffering followed by the high probability of becoming homeless or institutionalized.
  • I am single and alone.
  • I am a disabled American from the devastation known as Multiple Sclerosis.

Literally I see on social media almost every day how 'different' my life is than to almost anyone I know.

For the large majority of us by the age of 50+ our homes are close to paid for, kids almost out of the house, grandchildren beginning, retirement in sight, 2nd homes often purchased, yearly travel and marriages that are close to 25+ years filled with history, family & tradition.

For me not so much.

In fact my life could not be further from that if I tried. I spend Christmas alone and literally live a life that is mirror opposite to almost everyone I know.

Funnier to think I made these choices before me:

  • Being homeless is voluntary
  • Having less a desired outcome
  • Being single my mantra

My lens toward joy comes from truly knowing I am & have enough .

Truth be told looking at social media & being awake every moment of my life it appears that most do not have enough.

Instead they have possessions and many of them. How many have garages packed with shit? Closets you cannot open or better yet a storage facility because you have run out of room? The answer is a lot of us.

How many of us wake up each day excited?

Sad reality on my tour over 75% of folks did a job they were not 100% happy with. Imagine spending the bulk of your life not being happy with what you are doing. Jobs usually are the largest time suck when living in this energy space & most are not satisfied with what they do.

To make matters worse the resistance to change jobs almost always consumer driven.

Mad men winning often translates into loss of joy. Once we realize what the meaning of living a life of "enough" is all about you will begin to find joy. 

Getting conscious sits at the foundation of a joyful life. Knowing that each step you take & breath creates an opportunity to do exactly what you want at that moment.

A dear friend a few nights ago shared that at a recent trip to Rome they felt such a connection to the country because they were certain at that moment they were exactly where they belonged.

This my friends is enough. Knowing all in your life is right where you belong.

Living a purpose driven life starts with the belief that in this journey you will be provided for in every way you need. All you need will come so no need to worry beyond your purpose.

Joy in enough makes purpose possible.

This to me is a better look than consumer driven tales of joy.

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Why Resolutions Matter


Why Resolutions Matter

So many of us hate the idea of New Year's resolutions. In fact I know many people who simply will not even consider one.

Resolution : A firm decision to do or not to do something (Google definition)

If you are conscious & tapping your miracle life resolutions are a must. Sorry not sorry to tell you that in order to be awake you need to resolve.

Now there is no rule stating it has to begin on January 1st with the New Year, but it certainly helps to use this time to reflect & resolve for the coming year. My thoughts are why not use the New Year? I also do it quarterly using the New Year for my big dreams & ideas to begin.

Just to give you an example of resolutions I have made & successfully done whose idea's were decided with the New Year yet had the sentiment to be done before the year is out:

  • Quit Smoking Cigs
  • Gave up Drinking Alcohol
  • Selling all my Possessions
  • Touring the USA as PaleoBOSS Lady
  • Moving to California from the East Coast
  • Ending Toxic Relationships
  • Becoming a Wahls Warrior
  • Fasting
  • Ketosis
  • Yoga Every Damn Day
  • Becoming Self Empowered Regarding Movement
  • Whole 30 Challenges
  • Whole Life Challenges
  • Following my Circadian Rhythm

All of these things are HUGE changes in my life & have 100% contributed to the miracle known as PaleoBOSS Lady.

Each step was a very, very conscious act that took hard work & mental preparedness to make happen.

This gal cannot simply wake up & decide to do something. I have to prepare myself mentally 1st and foremost. The mental game is the only game that matters when you are trying to live your best life. I personally have to play mental chess for quite a long time to decide what I am going to work on.

I never, ever like to set myself up for failure. Once I commit to something I do it knowing I am ready to make shit happen.

I have already tried to anticipate any obstacles that may appear & how to navigate them. That is what I call mental chess. Asking and answering questions before they happen.

If I do this what could happen? What might it effect? How will I handle it?

Having conversations with yourself need to be honest & done over time. You do not simply wake up one day deciding & BAM it happens. Sure there are exceptions to the rule, but they are not the norm. Most of us need reflection time to resolve what will constitute our best life. Most of us need time to consider the desired outcome & what it will take to get to our chosen BAM.

Nothing worth anything is easy. In fact the greatest rewards come from when we are most uncomfortable. Resolutions are usually uncomfortable idea's that lead to an unknown territory.

I encourage all of you to begin NOW asking & answering your best life questions. Decide the New Year will bring a starting point knowing that in 365 days you will have mastered your chosen idea's to deliver a better life energy you.

Do not let this season of rebirth seem like a season of depriving. Instead I encourage you all to view it as a reinvention of your spirit that reflects the best you to date.

Go ahead. I believe in you. I wish you all the joy resolutions bring so that you too can up your volume to miracle status.

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The Standard of Care a Consumer Driven Machine in America


The Standard of Care a Consumer Driven Machine in America

Standard of care: 1. A diagnostic and treatment process that a clinician should follow for a certain type of patient, illness, or clinical circumstance. (

The "Standard of Care" is what hospitals, doctors and clinicians are expected to follow when caring for individuals. It dictates everything & many who live consciously find themselves being informed of this standard by their healthcare team.

I have heard time & time again from doctors who have had their chief of staff talk to them about not following the "Standard of Care" when they talk to patients about using food as medicine.

To make matters worse many patients such as those with Multiple Sclerosis (MS) who refuse to take disease modifying drugs are being told by their doctors they will only see them until they have a relapse. Once they have a relapse if they do not go on the drugs the doctor will end their relationship due to legal liability based on the "Standard of Care" issue.

Healthcare in America offers standards that are tied to the use of drugs which dictate the current standard of care used by most doctors & hospitals. Using diet & lifestyle are not considered in this equation at all therefore deemed outside of the acceptable standard of care most doctors are allowed to follow. Imagine nutrition falling outside of the standard of care!

In fact cancer has a standard of care which is chemotherapy even though study after study shows sugar is cancers #1 friend.

My neurologist made it simple for me. When I started using nutrition to heal my body I was asked to sign a legal document stating my doc nor the hospital were liable once I stopped taking the so called "disease modifying" drugs for MS. To make matters even easier the drug manufacturer called to record me stating that the doctor did not advise me to discontinue so they too could cover their asses.

When a standard of care regarding our health rest solely on the use of big pharm you have to believe we are all fucked. Literally the consumer driven machine wins once again at our expense.

To hear a doctor tell you they will only treat you as long as you are willing to take the drugs is beyond unbelievable yet many who live with disease hear this time & time again. The system is not only consumer driven it is also legal liability dictated. The law coupled with big pharm dictating how healthcare is done is the standard of care hospitals, doctors & clinicians subscribe too.

Literally all of this is simply disgusting & once again confirms to me personally that our healthcare system has nothing to do with wellness.

I remember a good friend who is a very successful OB sharing that he delivers most babies c-section no matter what to keep his malpractice insurance rates low. Are you kidding me!?! Where does our well being fit into this equation?

I say this in almost every talk I give & have witnessed this in every city I have traveled that hospitals, surgery centers & urgent care facilities continue to grow, expand & rebuilt. They are making money & the machine continues to crank out more dollars to support the expansion. Doesn't this tell you something?

Healing, wellness & eradicating disease are no where on the business plan for any of these organizations. Growth, expansion & continued abuse of the public are.

Isn't it time you woke up to the reason why 1 in 5 are disabled in America, why autoimmune disease is the fastest growing sector, cancer rates continuing to sore & drug companies along with hospitals and insurers continue to grow all at our expense.

My life as a BOSS is dedicated to saying F YOU to the systems in place & the powers to be that took most of my life to date away from me knowing full well what they were doing and all in the name of the almighty dollar. Son of a bitch.

As someone who lived most of her adult life as a millionaire & now lives at poverty I can without question tell you the real power in life comes from waking the fuck up.

Having the balls to own your life, stepping outside of the cultural bull shit and opening my fucking eyes were the ticket to miracle status. My life today is filled with joy because without a doubt I know who I am, where I am going & why I am here by living a conscious life. Bye Bye autopilot living.

Trust me when I tell you no one gets the right to fuck with me ever because I am awake & in charge. Sadly the system & those in power set us up for failure when we play by the standard of care game in America. Healthcare in America is governed by big business & has nothing to do with wellness. Going to the doctor is predicated on an autopilot life & most of us freely subscribe to the bullshit. WTF.

There I go again talking my thoughts out loud. Sure you might be pissed off at what I say, but the reality is it is true. Don't kill the messenger. Time to wake up is my story.

We all know it & I am just being honest. You think any doctor that has me sign legal releases because I won't take the drugs after watching me heal before their eyes using diet & lifestyle cares about healing? No fucking way.

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Slow, Steady, Sustainable Steps


Slow, Steady, Sustainable Steps

This is my mantra regarding conscious living. People always ask me how to start the process & I recommend you begin by having a real honest conversation with yourself. What can you do that will be sustainable for life? Not for today, a month or a week. A lifestyle change that you can commit to 100%.

Often our inclination is to go from 0 to 60mph. However history has shown that this will set us up for failure & we all kinda know this. Remember all the times you went from never working out to 3 days a week only to have it end within a few weeks or months of starting? Or the time you gave up ice cream before bed & it lasted not very long? You get my drift I am sure whether these examples are spot on or not that without clear motivation beyond the thought we are depriving ourselves failure is almost guaranteed.

Do not kill the messenger! Damn it.

Slow & steady wins the race. Remember the fable about The Tortoise and the Hare? Same holds true with conscious life changes. Slow & steady folks wins this one.

Really ask yourself & answer the question about what you can do that will be lasting & is a change you believe in to help live your best life.

Changes that feel like deprivation do not last for anyone.

  • Maybe start by committing to walking one day a week for 10 minutes?
  • Consider parking your car in the farthest spot for the entrance at the office, the mall or grocery store. Take the stairs instead of the elevator.
  • How about cutting sugar out one day a week.
  • Make each meal a rainbow of freshness on Sunday.

You get the idea. Simply do something that you can commit too!

Next begin asking yourself after a few weeks if you are ready to add a another day or make another change in some fashion. Always knowing that the change you commit too are lifelong. Not a diet, not for now, but forever. Your conversation has to include the forever part.

The 1st step in the conversation is to recognize this is a journey motivated by self love and nothing more.

Some BOSS thoughts:

The idea of food as a pleasure source is consumer. Yes folks it truly is based on principles developed by the manufactures of the shit they sell. This concept has nothing to do with best life living.

Consider the concept of breakfast, lunch & dinner. These idea's everyone at some point each of us have agreed are how we should eat during the day. To make matters even more exciting what we eat at those meals are also defined for us. By who? Those in power making this shit.

There is no healthcare reason why we eat 3 meals a day. There are no wellness reasons why bacon and eggs are for breakfast, sandwiches for lunch & a hearty meal for dinner. These are manufactured idea's that we all play along with. Double Damn it.

Our bodies are a like plants. We need water, sunlight & healthy nutrients from the soil to grow. Somehow we all have been programmed to believe we need only foods that taste good to live. I call bullshit!

This is just another example of consciousness that I hope opens your mind to what I am talking about. Ask and answer the questions regarding everything you do learning the reason why.

For me personally once I learned the system altered our foods knowing damn well gluten & sugar were addictive substances adding it to almost everything it was easy to say fuck you to the foods I grew to love.

That poison took almost half my life from me & I will be damn if it will take my final quarter.

Today I gleefully work out on my yoga mat daily paying homage to my person & life for another day. I meditate feeling pride connecting with myself & quieting my mind in this hectic world & every time I sit down to eat a meal I am literally giddy with joy that I can honor my body with nutrient dense goodness.

Not one ounce of me feels deprived or that I am missing anything.

Before getting conscious my life was all about being deprived. I was deprived of living a full life because Multiple Sclerosis (MS) was calling the shots. I lost years of being the best me due to real pain and suffering.

My daughter is a singer and has been performing her entire life. When she was younger having vocal classes etc there were many times I would be laying on the floor in the studio unable to move due to MS. These images live in my brain & haunt me often enough to know that those times will never appear again. My life as a mom will be full and rich because I give a shit about myself enough to know how to thrive. The heartbreak of not being able to be the best mom ever will forever be a distant memory because living a life of purpose & self respect delivers a miracle mom that no longer can barely be present.

Isn't it time you began the real journey of self love through consciousness? What is your 1st step going to be?

I believe in you.

Make today the day you begin to wake the fuck up & live YOUR best life. Stop letting the systems in place define your path.

Tap the miracle inside you & raise the roof on life!

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Biohacking to Find Your Super Power


Biohacking to Find Your Super Power

Who ever would have thought this would be a title coming from my crazy ass? Have mercy where has V gone?

Honestly I do not even recognize myself. The person I am today I am just meeting. In real time I kid you not! Fear of MS does not drive my life & this alone is a huge ass change.

The joy of living drives my life.

I am a super power & super hero all day every day. I am pretty sure you already knew that.

  • How did I get here?
  • How did I become a miracle?
  • How do I find my inner hero?

These are all questions I ask myself every day. Recently I discovered the word for it:


I never really understood what biohacking was until I realized I was a 'biohacker'.

Biohacking influences the body using mental, physical, nutritional and electronic techniques focused on longevity and optimal daily life performance. All touted to offer significant improvements in quality of life, relationships and overall health.

Dave Asprey, founder of Bulletproof coffee, is probably the most significant and well known biohacker there is. For the last year I lived at his Bulletproof cafe in Santa Monica among this growing community.

We shared conscious thoughts around biohacking our lives as an individual & a collective.

This was the 1st time I really understood what biohacking was & how perfectly that described my miracle life. I too was a biohacker.

You see the miracle of me surrounds the marriage of optimal living with the needs of my body. All of this accomplished by focused, conscious living for optimal outcome using all the influences described above.

Balance, attention & extreme forward focus produces the miracle known as PaleoBOSS Lady.

I am no Dave Asprey & learn constantly from his journey. His work like that of Dr. Wahls help to fuel my journey. Inspired by Dave's "Beginners Guide to Biohacking" I share with all of you my version. My hope is that it will help inspire how you can begin "biohacking" your life by sharing some ways I have been successful. Just as Dave Asprey & the entire Bulletproof community have inspired me.

Biohacking Your Super Power

Mobility: Movement & posture are huge aspects of my hacked life. Having MS posture is often hard for me to maintain due to body fatigue & resulting in very poor posture. The more inflammation leaves my body the easier it is to 'hold myself up' & work on proper posture. However simple steps can be taken to enhance your posture even when life makes it challenging. Focused efforts on posture critical & I recommend checking out Jill Miller's book The Roll Model for get steps to improve posture. Check out my story in the book too.

Movement for this miracle happens on the yoga mat & walking the neighborhood.

6 days a week you can find me on the mat for about 1.5 hours & every day walking miles. As life has evolved in my biohacked lens movement has been the biggest evolution based on body/mind feedback. Check out one of my most read blog posts about this here.

Nutrition:  Focus of consciousness regarding food the catalyst to my miracle status and my #1 biohacking tool.

My kitchen looks nothing like it did even 2 years ago and I have been conscious for over 5. 

Biohacking involves continued evolution for optimal outcomes with a focus on living healthier. This means food is not a measured merely as a pleasure source which was the only lens I had for over 50+ years. The biohacker in me continues to grow the evolution of my relationship with food which continues to result in drastic changes.

Nature: The role the outdoors plays in wellness is so huge it alone needs to be a blog. From grounding to vitamin D we all need to get outside. Take a walk, dance in the rain naked, put your feet in the sand & damn it stop to smell the roses. All critical elements for the biohacker in all of us.

Ride the Wave: Getting uncomfortable is an art form and crucial element to successful biohacking. This my friends continues to be the hardest of all for me yet produces HUGE benefits each time I create the space to just ride shit out. I do believe progress is happening & that lets me know time with focused effort this hack can become a huge asset in my "Bag of Tricks."

Mindfulness: Meditation is a powerful tool that sits in every biohackers ‘Bag of Tricks.” The moral of the story is meditation can be incorporated into daily life. This tool so important with the value it offers each of us should dedicate time to figuring out what this might look like in daily life.

Jump up, dance or sit like a pretzel who cares just figure out a way for you to stop life for a moment in time and just be.

The Narrative: The dialogue between the ears matters. Identifying your current narrative regarding life & living involves asking the question while answering with honesty.

  • Why do you wake at this time everyday?
  • Why do you set an alarm?
  • Why do you eat 3 meals a day?
  • Does you body live optimally with these choices?
  • Do you even know?

Time to start chatting with your bad self is the moral of the story here.

Gratitude: The art of being grateful from a scientific lens is proven to have amazing outcomes for all of us. It seems in our consumer driven world instant gratification more the status quo. Time to really check your lens to see where you. The ultimate goal is to always be working toward gratitude in all things the optimal outcome. I personally live with gratitude for breath.

Get Lost: Music, gardening, dancing & conscious/unconscious activities like this can create the space needed for super power magic to happen. Getting lost in a mindless space a necessary tool to successful outcomes yet difficult to achieve with the current spontaneous way we live today.

What is “Consciousness in Culture?

We all live an autopilot existence living the same routines day to day both personally and professionally. Consciousness in culture breaks down routine & creates a lifestyle that marries our own personal biology with optimal living. Biohacking our lives are the core foundations of consciousness aka Super Powers!

I recently wrote to my good friend, hero & mentor, Dr. Terry Wahls, that I feel like a living Wonder Woman with the amount of healing I have had over these 5 years with it continuing to grow. The longer I biohack my way through life the larger the gains in quality of living I experience. You would think there would be an end, but as of yet there is no end in sight!

Who knows maybe I will cure myself of MS some day. Biohacking every second.


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Steroid Nation


Steroid Nation

It is funny because I am sure if you asked most people who know me they would say I want everyone to live a Paleo lifestyle. However this could not be further from the truth.

"My dream is for everyone to get conscious about how they treat their body."

You would think by nature we are. Yet this is not the cultural norm for most of us worldwide. Today's lifestyle choices are based on autopilot living & have nothing to do with consciousness & everything to do with the here and now of instant gratification. The lifestyle of this century is an up to the minute existence offering very little time to get conscious in this current universal equation.

Since the end of April I have been voluntarily homeless & freed of possessions. This has presented a new lens with which to view the world that in a short time has become a huge learning experience. Once you realize how little you need to live a full rich life your lens will forever be different.

Autopilot has no place in possession-less life. The mere act of freeing oneself of possessions brings consciousness to the forefront of daily living.

In this time I have learned how seldom if ever does anyone consider or do the following:

  • Read ingredients of any non-whole foods they consume
  • Consider what is in a product beyond the consumer driven marketing messages
  • Believe their body will be anything but healthy & act accordingly
  • Base decisions solely on desired outcome

These lessons have come in all forms appearing to be ageless, sexless and/or classless. Universally day in and day out our actions solely based on desired outcome having no thought or attention to the net effects the process may have on our person & especially our body.

You see since the age of 23 I have been fighting with every ounce of my BOSS person to stop my body from blowing up as it was self destructing almost daily. Words cannot ever express how freaking hard it is to hear, witness & engage in watching others take deliberate acts that serve only to deliver an outcome without consideration of the cost to play on their body or their person.

These realities I bet we can all relate too:

  • How many of us have been on vacation or away on business feel some sort of sickness coming on and found a doctor to hook us up with antibiotics?
  • How many of us have been willing to take the latest 'diet' aid to lose weight?
  • How many of us have taken steroids to treat inflammation?
  • How many of us alter our body based on visual lens alone?

Almost all of these situations can be effectively treated by diet & lifestyle choices science has shown time & again. If you are reading this blog you already know this to be true. Regardless the masses continue to dictate their daily actions motivated by desire rather than self respect.

The real message of the brand of PaleoBOSS Lady has nothing to do with Paleo. It has to do with getting conscious beyond desire.

Paleo is my path. That does not mean it has to be your path. I am not in your body.

Paleo is my consciousness and modified at that. I follow The Wahls Protocol which is a modified form.  This protocol offers 3 levels and even in that I follow a level I invented with my body which I call level 2.5. The Wahls Protocol focuses on providing my cells with the nutrients needed to support a healthy life. As a result my ability to live my desired life appears limitless without need for outcome driven decisions.


Outcomes are easily achieved when consciousness of being are the norm.

It pains me to watch the intelligent, talented & gifted folks we all are take our bodies for granted or treat them with zero respect beyond desire. An outcome driven life is based on human desire having nothing to do with respect of our body.

Last time I checked we have only one body to live during this energy space. However we treat it as if owes us something & get mad when it breaks or does not preform to our desired needs. Almost as if to say "How dare you body!"
  • I wonder if we all started being respectful to our bodies what disease & sickness would look like?
  • Would 1 in 5 be disabled in America?
  • Would hospitals and pharmaceuticals be 2 of the fastest growing enterprises?
  • Would our youth be dying from heroin addiction often fueled by doctor induced drug addiction at alarming rates?
  • Would we have walks every weekend raising awareness for another group that needs funding?

In the end we are all kidding ourselves if we truly believe that an outcome driven life does not have negative impact on our body. You simply cannot artificially alter your temple to suit your needs before it cracks or breaks.

Your body is you & learning to honor, respect and worship it is how you get desired outcomes. Not artificially altering it because then it is no longer uniquely YOU & now has become 'theirs.'


Up your volume & own your shit with pride. Raise the roof on life!

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The Power of Doing Nothing


The Power of Doing Nothing

One of my most common pieces of advice when you are struggling is to do nothing.

I don't mean when an action is required ignore it. I mean stop pushing your life. Stop "doing" to make life happen in the direction of your dreams and just chill the "F" out.

Doing nothing is the most powerful weapon toward miracle status we have. It is also the hardest thing to do.

Allowing your mind to stop doing can be a huge challenge. I found it to be almost impossible for years. Yes folks I said years. In typical V fashion I did not stop until I got to QUIET and boy am I glad I did!

The 1st time I learned my mind was quiet happened on the yoga mat at the Brandywine YMCA in Delaware. There I was in yoga & for the 1st time in years I elevated my hands bilaterally above my waist! This amazing achievement took 6 months of religiously going to class 3 days a week for this miracle to happen. A miracle that coupled with breathing provided what my body needed to function.

I have been working hard to recreate this outcome since & now believe I have mastered the art of quieting my mind. Which equals almost 2 decades of conscious practice to get to this place. 

If this concept is new to you or if you have just stepped out of practice here is a peek into my "Bag of Tricks" to help you shut the "F" up so the real shit can go down. Damn it.

Energy: Create the desired energy needed to relax your mind. For each of us this is different so there are no rules how this energy should look or feel. My space has a yoga mat, something burning, a room honoring sunrise, music playing and a dog present. This currently is my energy space where my brain stops conscious thinking & moves to the magic space.

Intention: When you want for something the outcome is equal to the input. Wanting seldom produces miracles & often only feels unsettling. By setting an intention believing the journey will provide you create the space for miracles to manifest. Without true intention nothing ever really manifests. Sure things happen without action and those situations the focus should be on how we respond and have less to do with how they happened.

Affirm: Affirm that you know the answer is out there waiting for you. By affirming your person to the understanding that without a doubt the knowledge is within our reach the space for it to be heard is accessible.

Every time I am on the yoga mat I have a pad & pen by my side with a lit candle to be able to write down the many idea's that often arrive during my time on the mat. I affirm before each practice my believe that the space is open for divine energy to show me the way. Often the outcome appears in a stream of consciousness when I am in my most meditative quiet state. Seldom does it appear when I am actively thinking because I have not affirmed to myself the space is within me therefore I cannot tap the resource needed for the energy to be received. I personally need the mat to help create the space of affirmation.

Dedication: Saying you will not think does not deliver this blogs message. Dedicating time each day to quieting the mind becomes one of the most necessary steps you can take to making this powerful tool work. It can be defined however you want and many are surprised at how that can happen with the only rule being a solo tour.

Gardening is a great way to dedicate time to quieting the mind. This type of practice requires you to focus on gardening often quieting the mind of daily stress creating the space for desired outcomes. Cooking can often be the same for many as well as working out. However a key point is the dedicated time is a solo time not to be shared with others.

Believe: The underlying theme in all things is to believe they will happen & you are willing to accept any outcome that comes you way knowing it is the right one. With this mindset you can move mountains. If your person can truly believe the journey of life is delivered exactly how it is supposed to be you create the space for how you want it to be. Believe it or not and if you think about all that is written in the blog and its focus on energy you will begin to see how powerful this step is above all others.

The beauty of this is that is costs nothing, is inside all of us & can make our lives richer, fuller & a mirror picture of our desires and yet the power comes from the art of doing nothing. Now get busy doing nothing & tap your miracle life.

I believe in you.

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