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By: V Capaldi My kid and anyone who knows me will tell you I did not embrace change well for most of my life. Not only that I would lose my mind with even the slightest change to my day. Yes I would officially lose my shit when life happened.

No wonder MS (multiple sclerosis) was winning at every turn.  Not only was my diet & lifestyle a mess the "mentals" were way off.

Moving to California has been a huge lesson in riding the wave.

It is amazing how much slower life appears to this east coast girl & more fluid living on the left coast.  Having the outdoors call your name almost daily requires fluid living. I am sure folks in Colorado feel the same way with all the sunny days.

Long gone are the days of 9 to 5 which was a huge wave riding thought when I 1st arrived in Venice Beach.  I can remember thinking "does anybody work?" Everyday it seemed everybody was home.

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The LA work narrative is different. Fluid and wave like.

Today I am sure if you asked my kid and others how I am now they would talk about my re-invention of self that has resulted in adapting to change in a healthy way.  An approach that creates space to up the volume of live while allowing for it to unfold.

 How to Change Without Freaking Out:

  1. Remind yourself that evolution is real. We all need to evolve in order to grow. The end. A great book & tool to help this narrative is found here.
  2. Mentally, write it down & know your fears surrounding this change and your joys. Leather bound journals make this more fun too.
  3. Check in your "Bag of Tricks" for resources. What do you need, have & gotta get? Great blog about this right here.
  4. Know it is okay to be a little scared married with self belief. Here is my favorite tool to support my journey.
  5. Do nothing. Learn how to create a scared space and do not a damn thing. Nothing at all. Just chill. More here.

Since this gal is a BOSS I also need immediate self help strategies when I am feeling overwhelmed or consumed by change in real time.

  • Stop, close your eyes & breath.
  • Slowly in & out with concentrated effort for at least 3 times.
  • Slowly is the key word.
  • Take big breaths that start in your belly expanding up your spinal column, vertebra by vertebra, reversing on the exhale.
  • Add words like gratitude on the inhale while smiling on the exhale. This is always a crowd favorite.

Cultural changes are the hardest. I was raised with tradition being the foundation of who you are.

My conscious living lifestyle stood to create huge cultural change & it scared me.

Then I remembered step #1: Evolution.

I became the change. The change did not happen to me it is me.

Please give feedback, share this shit or not. I would love to know what speaks to you or not.

You get my drift.

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