By: V Capaldi My kid and anyone who knows me will tell you I did not embrace change well for most of my life. Not only that I would lose my mind with even the slightest change to my day. Yes I would officially lose my shit when life happened.
No wonder MS (multiple sclerosis) was winning at every turn. Not only was my diet & lifestyle a mess the "mentals" were way off.
Moving to California has been a huge lesson in riding the wave.
It is amazing how much slower life appears to this east coast girl & more fluid living on the left coast. Having the outdoors call your name almost daily requires fluid living. I am sure folks in Colorado feel the same way with all the sunny days.
Long gone are the days of 9 to 5 which was a huge wave riding thought when I 1st arrived in Venice Beach. I can remember thinking "does anybody work?" Everyday it seemed everybody was home.
The LA work narrative is different. Fluid and wave like.
Today I am sure if you asked my kid and others how I am now they would talk about my re-invention of self that has resulted in adapting to change in a healthy way. An approach that creates space to up the volume of live while allowing for it to unfold.
How to Change Without Freaking Out:
- Remind yourself that evolution is real. We all need to evolve in order to grow. The end. A great book & tool to help this narrative is found here.
- Mentally, write it down & know your fears surrounding this change and your joys. Leather bound journals make this more fun too.
- Check in your "Bag of Tricks" for resources. What do you need, have & gotta get? Great blog about this right here.
- Know it is okay to be a little scared married with self belief. Here is my favorite tool to support my journey.
- Do nothing. Learn how to create a scared space and do not a damn thing. Nothing at all. Just chill. More here.
Since this gal is a BOSS I also need immediate self help strategies when I am feeling overwhelmed or consumed by change in real time.
- Stop, close your eyes & breath.
- Slowly in & out with concentrated effort for at least 3 times.
- Slowly is the key word.
- Take big breaths that start in your belly expanding up your spinal column, vertebra by vertebra, reversing on the exhale.
- Add words like gratitude on the inhale while smiling on the exhale. This is always a crowd favorite.
Cultural changes are the hardest. I was raised with tradition being the foundation of who you are.
My conscious living lifestyle stood to create huge cultural change & it scared me.
Then I remembered step #1: Evolution.
I became the change. The change did not happen to me it is me.
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