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How to Create a Sacred Space in 3 Easy Steps

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How to Create a Sacred Space in 3 Easy Steps

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By: V Capaldi I must admit that I find myself often getting mad at me when I realize how many times I take things I do for granted. I work so hard to share my life while being conscious and yet I still am not perfect. #damnit

One of the things I have somehow always had even as a young child was the awareness and ability to create and have a sacred space. As a kid I decorated my bedroom each month making it my personal retreat even though I shared the room with my sister. It was very clear when you entered the room where the sacred space was.

My sacred space was were "I" lived whenever I was not outside playing with friends.

My childhood home was dysfunctional to say the least. Filled with addiction, violence and mental disorders gone wild.

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"Your sacred space is where you can find yourself over and over again."

Joseph Campbell

This year for the 1st time I realized how for so many the idea of sacred space is a new concept.  #doubledamnit

As with most of my tips and tricks in the infamous "Bag of Tricks" I recommend a 100% no rules allowed policy when defining a sacred space.  If you read my blogs you will notice a common theme and that is you get to set the rules on how you interpret your life. Who am I to say what constitutes your sacred space?  I can however give you insight into how to get started to begin creating a sacred space:

How to Create a Sacred Space in 3 Easy Steps

 1. Ask the question: As in most new concepts I chose the outcome driven approach.  Looking 1st to my desired outcome and working back.

  • Is it a place?
  • In your mind's eye?
  • How is it accessible?

What was the 1st thing that you thought of when you heard sacred space? Often answering this is a great starting point.

2.  Try it on: Once  you have identified a thought or two concerning your sacred space try that shit on, take it for a test run, whatever it is get going.  I happen to be someone who has moved a lot  counting over 19 times in my 52+ years.  Each time within a month of moving I have progressed to this step.

An example would be: when I moved from living on the beach to near the beach I knew my daily access to "my sacred space" was going to be in trouble.  It took me a few weeks of trying new versions of 'going to the beach' to finally hit a system that supported finding my space.

3.  Visit often: Like a new pair of shoes I often try them out before the 1st day of a good wear I recommend you check your shit out.  I personally wear a new pair of shoes for 'short' outings or around the house for a minute before a full day.  Breaking them in for me always a learned necessary step. Same holds true for a sacred space. You gotta try this shit out and see how it feels.

If you have to search for "you" than it probably is not the best look is my gut. You know a sacred space. 

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For me personally I share my sacred space with the waters edge, my yoga mat and a 'cozy' moment created on-demand using essential oils, candles, angel cards and music.  I know the perfect locations, sequence, oils and so on to allow space for me to find me.

The miracle known as PaleoBOSS Lady believes having a sacred space is essential to all of our own miracle reality.

Where is yours?

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Namaste you bastards! #ohitgetswild

 

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Autumn Aromatherapy

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Autumn Aromatherapy

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As you mayknow, V and I worked together in a magical little boutique she created, called Sanity. One of the main components of the store was a mindfulness and well-being section populated with aromatherapy products, handcrafted wall & table fountains, zen gardens, and other wonderful creations designed to help you slow down and look inward. Aromatherapy seemed like a lot of mumbo jumbo in our conservative little corner of Delaware, but it quickly caught on and was our strongest and most enduring section of the shop. Every season, V and I would offer workshops in aromatherapy to help people bring a bit of natural healing to their daily lives and aid in meditation and mindfulness. We’ve been chatting recently about starting this tradition back up!! So here I am … with a few tips on ways to use essential oils in this beautiful, transitional season of fall.

Why Autumn Aromatherapy?

As we move between the seasons, our bodies and minds also go through transitions. Spring and summer tend to be outwardly focused for mind and body… and now it’s time to start looking inward. Autumn is a wonderful time to begin a simple meditation practice in order to help prepare you for our seasonal “hibernation” in winter. I’ve always been a fan of Aromaland’s Meditation Blend for bringing in the the fall and winter. Comprised of Frankincense, Myrrh, Ylang Ylang, Sandalwood, Cistus Labdanum, this blend is warm and spicy, and consists of many oils which would be quite expensive to buy individually. Frankincense has a calming effect on the emotions, and has been known to slow down & deepen the breath… perfect for inducing that meditative state! The other oils in this blend have similar properties of relaxation, as well as some more practical properties like: antifungal, antiviral, antiseptic… perfect for cleansing the air in your home as we head into a time where we will be indoors more often.

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Autumn Oils and Their Properties

Speaking of being indoors... how about setting a healthy, welcoming, and fragrant greeting for your family and guests every time they enter? There are hundreds of ways to use essential oils in your home to create a wonderful atmosphere and promote health & well-being. I highly recommend The Complete Book of Essential Oils & Aromatherapy by Valerie Ann Worwood. She dedicates a whole chapter to this!! Some of the most popular oils for use in scenting the home in autumn also have healthy benefits.

 

  • Cedar (Cedrus Atlanticus): known to be a powerful antiseptic…particularly for bronchial infections. Definitely good to diffuse!!
  • Clove Bud (Eugenia caryophyllata): antibacterial, antiseptic, and analgesic… clove is believed to help prevent illness and infection. In fact, it is so powerful that it has been used to sterilize surgical instruments in field hospitals.
  • Ginger Root (Zingiber officinalis): Stimulating, warming, aphrodisiac and tonic, many people already know that it helps to soothe the stomach. In a room diffuser, ginger adds a wonderful warm & spicy note to a fall blend.
  • Orange (Citrus Aurantium… other variations also available): antidepressant and mildly sedative, yet at the same time, orange is also refreshing and rejuvenating! Perfect to diffuse when someone in the house is organizing bills or studying for an exam!! Its aroma inspires and brings fresh energy & clears the mind. Citrus oils help to eliminate emotional confusion and are believed to increase one’s sense of humor and well-being. Definitely a win!!

 

In addition to the book above, I swear by a few other reference sources in my home, and these are where I have gathered most of the information included in this little post:

While therapeutic grade essential oils are an amazing, natural way to promote wellness in your home, always be aware that many oils have strict usage guidelines in order to be considered safe to the body. Look into the specific properties of each oil you are using to see if they are safe for children, pets, or pregnant women… and whether they should be used in diffusers/inhalations, baths or directly on the skin.

I look forward to chatting with you about other amazing uses for essential oils over the fall and winter! Let me know what you are interested in, and I will write a post about it!

Happy Fall!

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Friday's Friend: Tony Ferro, founder of Change MS

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Friday's Friend: Tony Ferro, founder of Change MS

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For this week's Friday's Friend, PBL is so proud to pass the mic to Tony Ferro, founder of Buffalo, NY based non-profit Change MS.  Change MS was created to help people with Multiple Sclerosis feel better physically, mentally and emotionally.  Tony is healing his body through food, movement and mindfulness, and is here to share his story with us.

By: Tony Ferro

MS/Multiple Sclerosis: two simple letters that are short for a complicated condition. Anyone who has MS can relate to the challenges and fears that come when you hear those words for the very first time.

As serious as the disease is, the bond it creates with those that share the same diagnosis is amazing. Anyone I have ever spoken to about the day of diagnosis has the same story, same emotions, same sense of loneliness and not knowing where to turn. It is hard to stay positive when you hear such devastating news. But the moment you leave that doctor’s office is when the journey should begin.

This disturbing news saved my life.   You’re probably thinking, how can being diagnosed with a disease save one’s life? Well, I can assure you my diagnosis turned into a blessing and instead of looking at it as the end; it was my opportunity for a new beginning!

Perception and positive outlook on your situation is key!

If I could give anyone with MS one piece of advice it would to have the right ATTITUDE! One thing my doctors say (and I agree with), is if they could bottle up my attitude and prescribe it, they would. Although, not one of them agrees with me not taking any medications, they are all pleased with my progress and the way I look at things. I have always been an optimistic person, no matter what the situation, and that has helped. Talking about myself isn’t easy for me, but I’ve learned that the more I speak about it, the more positive I am with my own situation. I also find that by speaking my truth, it allows others to open up and talk about their experiences.

Community Matters!

No one should feel alone! One thing that I found lacking in the doctor’s office on the day of my diagnosis was the sense of community. I wanted to talk to someone who had been through the new things I was experiencing, but instead I was left alone with some preprinted literature and my own thoughts… and the answers I could find on Google. WTF is that?! No one should be told something that serious and be sent off to fend for themselves! In my experience, this burden is the heaviest thing to carry with you; holding things in and trying to hide our new fate can cause more harm than good.

Be your own advocate & Embrace Change!

I often ask people after sharing our MS stories, “what are you doing differently now that you have MS”? I press them to consider things like… How are you being proactive and handling the diagnosis? Are you only taking advice from your doctor or are you more aggressive with getting multiple sources of information and not wanting to settle for the normal status quo?

We are an over-medicated and under-educated society. Do I have all the answers? Absolutely not. But leaving the doctor’s office early in 2012 and seeing how devastated my mother was, followed by close friends and of course my family, I found new strength. I was going to be ok. It fueled a thirst for knowledge that I never experienced before.

I intend to keep learning and kicking MS’s ass. But all in all, I’m looking forward to learning about myself. I recently attended a health seminar and met amazing people with inspiring success stories. I also met one of my idols, Dr. Terry Wahls and a new mentor, V Capaldi (or the woman you know as PaleoBOSS Lady®). I can’t help but ask … what if they listened? What if they settled for what they were supposed to do according to their doctor’s orders and ignored their heart? What if they didn’t go above and beyond what they were told? They wouldn’t have these stories to share; they wouldn’t be able to inspire others to do the same.

Don’t settle!! Don’t stop questioning! And don’t stop believing in the power of you.

Through his organization, Tony and the Change MS team have created an amazing community dedicated to raising awareness about MS, providing resources and support,  and empowering people to live their best life.

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TOP 5 Conscious Living Holiday StressBusters

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TOP 5 Conscious Living Holiday StressBusters

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By: PaleoBOSS Lady® 2014 has produced so many wonderful outcomes in the life of PaleoBOSS Lady and one that I cherish is my relationship with Breaking Muscle. This organization could not be more supportive, enlightening and is filled with quality people! It is truly an honor to be part of the editorial team of Breaking Muscle!

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In my short time working with Breaking Muscle I have learned that many are interested in the "How To" of living a conscious life. During the holidays this challenge becomes even harder and I would have to believe "How To Thrive" consciously during the holidays would be a welcome blog. #mystory

TOP 5 Conscious Living Holiday StressBusters from PaleoBOSS Lady's famous "Bag of Tricks":

1. Just say NO & Dance!   Literally decide now that you are saying "NO" to anything that has caused stress for you during the holiday season! Take a personal inventory and be freaking real by asking and answering this question and removing whatever is on the side of "not a good look". Plain and simple do not allow for what does not work. Take the new free time you have to dance!  #ohitgetswild

2. Light something anything!  Nothing says "simmer down now" then lights! Put them around a tree and/or house!  Even the spark of a lit candle works wonders!

You can take this one step further by using candlelight for an aromatherapy diffuser filled with an essential oil holistic helper!  Lavender oil is a great stress reliever!  This is how PaleoBOSS Lady likes to roll!

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Another wonderful holiday thing that this BOSS Lady likes to incorporate is to purchase a large candle to honor those who are no longer here with us. It is suggested to start lighting around Thanksgiving daily until Christmas using it to represent those lost and loved. It allows their energy to be present through out the holiday season!

3. Plan! Plan! Plan!  The key to a conscious life is in the planning and we all know this! During the holiday season we all need to up our game to make sure we are on point. I suggest making this fun by picking out some new Paleo compliant cookbooks and experimenting in the kitchen! This is the season of entertaining and cooking so why not incorporate this into your conscious life!

This time of year also brings great discounts on some of those cookbooks you been dying to get in addition lots of new releases hit the market making this an all around BAM!

4. Find the TRUE Spirit!  The holiday season is filled with unconscious requirements and commitments that often do not serve us as individuals. A conscious life requires a conscious commitment to what the holidays mean personally to each of us. Some of us find ourselves participating in the holidays through the act of consumerism only. Take time to evaluate what the holiday means to you and turn that into an action beyond gift giving. Nothing relieves stress more than the true spirit of the holidays being fulfilled.

5. Visualize your life!   The biggest stress buster throughout most of my life has been in the planning and steps taken to turn a life vision into reality. During the month of December dedicated and conscious time are focused daily toward a personal life vision for the coming year! This process includes an in-depth evaluation of the current year as well as an honest account of one's personal life realities and challenges. Vision boarding your dreams can prove to be a great roadmap for the coming year that produces real life dreams being realized! #dreamscomingtrue

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For many of us it's not surprising that the holidays are filled with traditions focused on consumerism only. Personally this was my reality for many years! I do have gratitude that having MS created my conscious awakening that the real holiday spirit has nothing to do with consumerism. This was my first step into thriving during the holidays rather than financially and personally dying during the holidays as many of us do.

A conscious life no matter how you get there delivers a stress-free & fearless reality. #todaystruth

I offered the above as real-life examples of my miraculous existence. If you find any of this helpful I would appreciate you taking the time to subscribe to my blog. Having a community to support my efforts is the fuel to this existence. Without you there is no this…

Might even be a good look if you'd share my blog with your friends.

You could even casually start to bring it up during conversation at all of your holiday parties about how wonderful you think the PaleoBOSS Lady blog is! #ohyesidid

You get the idea… #bossy

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